Some of you may remember my post re my ex-bff who has been stalking/copying me on FB. I have since blocked her on FB so she can't see what I am doing. It actually felt kinda liberating to do that. I really do not want anything to do with her right now.
Anyway, a common friend just emailed me. He will be in town next weekend. He went to the same HS as ex-bff and I. Since ex-bff and I are both in DC, he wanted to meet us for dinner. He emailed me and asked if I am available next week to meet with him and ex-bff? I really do not want to tell him i do not want to see/speak to ex-bff anymore. I am willing to see him but just not with ex-bff. WWYD?
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This.
if you don't want to tell him the situation with ex-bff, then can you just tell him you are not free for dinner but see if you can squeeze in a quick cup of coffee before he leaves...something that doesn't really require planning so the two of you could easily do it without having to invite ex-bff. Or could you just tell him you would like to meet with just him so you two could really catch up?
I like this. If he doesn't get the hint (because he's a guy and they are so simple), then you might just have to be honest. I ran into this very same situation awhile back when I was in CA visiting. I had a falling out with my BFF last year and a mutual friend was obviously unaware. So I just told her that things were strained with BFF and I, and I wasn't ready to confront that. That I would much rather have a fun meeting with her alone. She was really cool with it. Course she asked about it at dinner, only natural thing to do, and I told her that I didn't share the info with mutual friends because I didn't want to force anyone to have to choose "sides". She respected that.
Umm technically he's a guy but he's gay
. Nobody among our common friends really know about my issues with ex bff and I would like to keep it at that. Last thing is people asking me questions why I don't wanna hang out with her anymore and making this a much bigger deal than it is. My issues with ex bff are just between her and myself and don't want anybody else to get involved.
I have nothing valuable to add on my own, but I just wanted to say I agree with everything above and I think that the Hawaii nesties are a wise bunch of gals.
Did I just use the word "gals"??
erica-
i agree with some of the pps but your friend will most certainly ask what's up, and i also suggest that you perhaps call and suggest coffee or dinner just the two of you don['t do by e-mail
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I tend to agree with this. He almost certainly will ask what's going on - you don't have to go into detail, but you may need to say something like what Lori said.
Ditto!
I was just thinking through my advice -- glad it's going to work out!