June 2009 Weddings
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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S/O FB poll
SBS's and Zee's comments in the thread below have prompted another vent.
I HATE when people put a picture of their kid or niece/nephew as their profile pic. YOU ARE NOT YOUR KID! My coworker's profile pic is of her boyfriend's granddaughter.
Related rant (seen mostly on Myspace) -- screennames that are billswifey or landynsmommy. It makes me sad that people don't have their own identity and are now defined by their sig. other or kid.
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
Re: S/O FB poll
Ok, I agree with the screennames. That's ridic and pathetic.
For the pics, I feel like it makes sense to have kids in your profile pic. For me, when I FB stalk, I often don't want to actually friend someone, I just want to know the stats. So if you have a kid in your pic, I don't have to bother with the rest. The people who have their kids dressed as their own profession and show what network they're in are the best. No friending to do on my part. I get the basic idea of what they're up to without having to write on their wall, "so what's new with you in the past 20 years?"
Also, I don't agree that putting a sonogram pic reduces you to an internal organ. I don't think it means that we're fulfilling our true purpose. I think it's just another way to show off.
But, I did just change my profile pic in honor of this post so check it out.
October 2013 February Siggy Challenge: Valentine's Day Fail
EDD 10/3/13
Ditto all that. Though I think it makes more sense to have a picture of yourself with your kids rather than just a picture of your kid, it doesn't really bother me that much. I don't really have a problem with sonogram pics either, but I haven't seen that yet (except in albums - just not as profile pics). I think those women are just excited to be pregnant.
I generally don't like to make my kids' pics my profile pic because I don't like the idea of them being out on the internet for everyone to see, with no 'protection' from us. You never know who is looking at your profile and randomly stalking you. I think the less people (who aren't my friends) know, the better. My personal feeling. If there is a particularly cute shot of one of them with the 1 of us, I will. But not them alone. I also never used a sonogram pic as a profile shot. I don't see the point? I think that's a private thing and I don't see why I would want strangers to see the inside of my uterus! Especially with the freaks out there these days. When we lived in Orlando some crazy chick kidnapped a newborn baby from the hospital we had just had our son! Thank God they found her and the baby was ok, but Holy ESS! You just never know.?
I also hate when screen names are soandso's wife/mommy etc. /bleh. I have a friend who's mommyoftwins or something like that. It annoys me. I don't understand why women choose to define themselves that way. You are still your own person!!!!!
I agree with it making more sense to have a picture of you WITH your kid, or the family, or whatever. But the sonogram picture thing just freaks me out. I think it's 100% acceptable to have it in an album -- share your joy, that's amazing! But what IS a profile picture? It's a photo to announce, in some way, "this is who I am". I'll admit, mine has been a stack of books, a Diet Coke can, and a Twilight poster in the past, so I can't say I totally mind being "reduced" to a symbol.
However, the uterus/sonogram thing, for me, carries way too many political implications. (Granted, I've spent the past three weeks reading nothing but various feminist theories regarding motherhood and patriarchy versus motherhood and power for my thesis, so I may be a bit more charged up about it than if this thread had been posted in, like, late August...).
A PP said it the best, putting your sonogram picture as your profile picture is just another way to show off and let people know what's going on in your life. It annoys the S out of me, but I've realized that's what people do. When I first got my dog I pretty much had his picture as my profile got a good 10 months. That probably annoyed the S out of a lot of people too, but it is what it is.
I agree with the kids thing though. Any kids pictures on the internet freaks the hell out of me (I think I've seen too many Law and Order SVU episodes). DO NOT PUT PICTURES OF YOUR KIDS ON THE INTERNET. I can understand pictures of your family all together, but only your kids? Keep it in an album at home, please.
The thing that pisses me off the most about facebook is when people put the best picture of them they've ever taken as their profile picture. You don't actually look that good IRL. I agree, find a nice picture and keep it there, but when you put the greatest picture ever of you, you can pretty much count on the entire facebook community knowing that you put that picture up because you know you look amazing in it. Be a little more full of yourself, please.
SBS - this post is one of those times that I wish I could just hang out with you and talk.
I just started typing a whole novel about feminism and sonograms and stuff but it's just too hard on these boards. When is our huge J9 meetup anyway?? Don't you feel like vacationing on the east coast? Start in NY and then head up to Mass?
October 2013 February Siggy Challenge: Valentine's Day Fail
EDD 10/3/13
This. I first had a conversation about this with a friend during our freshman year of college, when Facebook first started up in the spring of '04 at our school. It's very deceptive.
But again, isn't that the point of Facebook? To show people you haven't seen in years how great your life is?
Why are pet pictures OK but kid pictures not? I've never understood that.
October 2013 February Siggy Challenge: Valentine's Day Fail
EDD 10/3/13