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WWYD?
So as you all know, I'm KU. I really want to tell my best friend (MOH at my wedding), but here's the dilemma. She lives in the Netherlands. If that was all there was, I'd definitely just tell her over the phone and be done with it. But, she's getting married (I'm in the wedding) on Sunday, Nov. 1. I'll be there for the entire wedding weekend, with events going on from Friday through Monday. I don't know whether I should still just tell her over the phone pre-wedding or tell her in person during the wedding weekend. I don't want to "steal her thunder" by any means...would I be doing this if I tell her the Friday before the wedding? I remember shag posting something about a friend of hers telling her she was pg at the wedding, which I wouldn't do. Advice?
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Re: WWYD?
I would just tell her now. Is there a reason you want or think you have to do it in person?
I told all my friends (and my parents) over the phone.?
I'd tell her over the phone. I think even if you don't intend to, it'll be weird to tell her over the wedding weekend. Also, she's prob expecting to do a bit of drinking with you and it might be better to let her know before.
Otherwise, I'd wait until after the wedding and tell her on the phone when you got back - although I do think that's even weirder in some ways.
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Ditto.
Coleman--it wasn't so much the fact that she told me at my wedding that surprised me. It was how casual she was about it. I guess she told a bunch of friends at her table during our reception. She told me at my after party.
I was standing in the kitchen, and she casually asked me if I had anything non caffeinated. I was about to take a shot of 99 berries and handed it to her, and said that I didn't think that it has any caffeine in it and laughed about it. I figured it was for her toolbox of a boyfriend who doesn't drink and judges anyone who does. I told her we had sprite and water and maybe some OJ, but that was it.
She laughed a bit and was like yea, it's not for Kevin, it's for me, IM PREGNANT.
I took the shot, stood there in shock (my MOH said she had to leave the room because the look on my face was priceless).
If you want to see her in person to do it, I say go for it. I would tell her straight out that you're so happy for her getting married, but she is one of your best friends and you wanted to tell her in person that you're pregnant. Unless she is some sort of bridezilla, I think she'll be happy for it and move on with the weekend.
I always thought it was bad luck to tell anyone that you are pg before the 12 week mark due to higher chances of miscarriages, etc. If you're going to spill the beans, I agree with everyone on telling her over the phone.
if you're ready to tell now i'd just do it over the phone. if you wait until the wedding maybe you wont get the right chance to tell her during the wedding craziness.
Ditto everyone.
I'd think it would totally look like you're trying to steal her thunder if you waited.
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I love that you took the shot.
I agree. Tell her on the phone. She's gonna be so busy the weekend of her wedding, you'll probably get a better chance to really talk about it if you tell her on the phone beforehand.
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Other than nesties and my Mom, no one else knows about the pregnancy yet. We're planning on telling DH's parents on his 30th birthday weekend next weekend. My best friend was the only other person I was planning to tell before the 13 week mark, and that's because she's more like a sister to me than anything else. We've been best friends for 12 years, so it's not like this is some random bestie I picked up in the past year. She would definitely not be Bridezilla-y about it if I told her during the wedding weekend. She would be utterly thrilled, as I would be for her if roles were reversed. Honestly, I'm still on the fence about it. It's hard to coordinate phone calls. I've been trying to reach her since last week and we keep missing each other. I can't call internationally from work or from my cell so can only call when home. If I get home late, it's already WAY too late to call her. 7 pm here is 1 am there. I secretly agree with Chrissy that moments like this are better in person, but I'm an in-person kind of gal anyway. I'm rambling. Anyway, if I reach her by phone I'll probably tell her. If I don't, I'll probably tell her the Friday before the wedding.
Exactly what she said. I would love for my bf to tell me she was KU in person rather than on the phone.