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Baby Brain

I'm sure this topic has been brough up several times in the past few months. Since we're 'married women now' has anyone else felt a bit of baby on the brain?

 We're not ready but that doesn't make my odd desire any smaller. We've only been married 5 months. 

 Anyone else at the desire stage, but still waiting and if so based on what? Finances? Wanting to connect? etc. I'm just curious

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  • I desperately want a baby. I've always wanted kids. DH wants a baby, but not now. His original plan was 5 years. He wanted to get finances in order and have some "us" time. After we discussed it a bunch of times, he realizes that I don't want to wait five years. I eventually worked him down to one year. He is now saying that he can't wait until we have a baby. Now, we will start trying at the end of next summer!
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  • I do.  We are going on month #4 of TTC.  We both wanted kids for atleast the last year and were only waited to be married to start trying.

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  • My desire definitely increased post wedding but overall I still think we aren't ready yet.  Our finances could probably handle a baby, but we'd like to be a little more comfortable with them--have a bigger savings and the ability for me to stay at home.  I also really want to do some traveling before kids.
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  • Dh and I traded views after we got married. Before we got married i wanted kids sooner than later and he didnt want any. Now I am leaning towards waiting a few years and he wants to try next year! LOL

  • I have horrible baby fever, but we're waiting about 2 years before we start trying.  DH is still in law school and I haven't found work as a lawyer.  Money is definitely the major issue.  In this legal market, I would feel irresponsible TTC before I know that both myself and DH have legal jobs secured.  If he gets a job offer right after graduation (May 2011) and assuming I'm working as a lawyer by then, we'll start trying at that time.  We're also positive we don't want to stay in Chicago, so I'd rather wait until we pick a new city, move, and get settled.

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  • DH and I had planned on waiting about a year to start TTC but God had other plans for us!  We have been together for 9 years and owned our house for 3.  I don't feel like we're going to miss out on anything, we've traveled together and had plenty of time to connect.  While I would've liked to be a little bit more prepared (we're scrambling to get my car sold and get me into a mommy-mobile) I'm extatic that we're expecting our first and now I wouldn't have it any other way! 
  • I definitely have baby on the brain.  But that is in part because my best friend is TTC and I just found out at least two people I work with are expecting.  Seems like everywhere I go there are pregnant women!  Still, we decided to wait a year to start TTC and I'm fine with that.  I like our independence and we didn't live together before getting married so we are enjoying that.  I sometimes think that starting to TTC now would be nice but for the most part I want to wait until next year.  DH and I have talked about it and we are both in agreement that we want to wait until next year to start. 

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  • We desire one, but not exactly now.  We want to get as much of our debt paid off as possible.  We always said abour 2 years after we got married, but it wouldn't be a tragedy if it happened sooner.

    Funny, but I would like for the dogs to be a little older and more calmed down so I don't have 3 children to take care of at once!

    We want two kids.  Twins run in H's family so we are hoping by some miracle we have twins and get it over with at once.

  • We were originally going to start trying right away, but SIL got engaged earlier this year and since we're both in the wedding, we decided to wait about five or six months after our wedding.  This month is our first month TTC.  I just didn't want to either have an infant or be nine months pregnant as a BM.  A couple of our friends are pregnant now and I'm totally jealous. 
  • I had a little bit of baby fever right after we got married, but I have come back to equilibrium.  I just started working after many years of school and am doing pretty well in my career.  I would like to keep that going for a couple years before we start trying.  But I can't ignore that nagging feeling that i"m not getting any younger!
  • We have it bad.  But we know that there are a couple bills that need to be paid off in full first.  We are talking about starting TTC in March, but that could all change.  If it happened tomorrow though, it'd be wonderful :)
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  • I have baby fever bad, but logically, I want to wait a couple of years. We have a lease purchase agreement on a house that should be sold within 18 months. We could financially handle a baby now but we will be much better off when the house sells. We'd also like to get a couple minor debts paid off (student loans, car payment). If it happened now, I'd be thrilled, but if we wait until the house sells, it will be less stressful overall so I'm fine with waiting.
  • I've got baby fever, but I try to be logical about it...I remind myself that I enjoy sleeping in, being able to just get up and go if we decide to last minute, being able to do nothing if we feel like it, and since DH and I didn't live together before the wedding I'm just enjoying finally living with him and sharing each day together.

    We plan to wait until we've been married at least a year.  I would love to have a baby sooner, but we want to pay down some debt (namely cc's), save up some $$, and we want to trade in my car and get an SUV before a baby comes along.  With all the pregnant women and babies around me, it sure is hard to stay with the plan to wait!

    Congratulations to all of the moms-to-be, can't wait to see your little one when they arrive!
  • YES! I definitly have Baby Brain! We are waiting for a couple reasons:
    1 - We didn't start dating until June 2008 - so we are still "new" to each other...would be nice to have more time for just the two of us.
    2 - We have planned to pay off all debt (other than house) by next Spring.

    So we are hoping to start next summer. I've just stopped taking BC pills (using condoms now), to let my system get back to normal so hopefully it will be a little easier to get pregnant once we start!!! Hubby thinks first time we "try" I'll get prego. LOL

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  • We had baby on the brain before the wedding.  However, we did not think it would happen as quick as it did after we got married.  We are excited though and can't wait.
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  • I definitely have baby on the brain but, like most everyone else, we realize that we need to wait a while. I only have a part-time job now and would like a full-time job before we start trying.

    Ideally, I would be able to stay at home but we know that isn't going to happen at first because DH wants to go to med school. So if we waited until I could stay home, it would be another 6 years and we are NOT waiting that long. ;)

    The current plan is to start trying at our 1 year anniversary. 

  • Yeah, H and I both have BOTB.

     We will probably start trying in a few months.  We want to figure out if the Air Force will be moving us sometime soon.  We're also doing some home renovations that 1) cost a lot of money and 2) might make the house unsafe for a pregnant lady. :-)

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