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:-(

I'm playing with bookofodds.com (new nerdy website that helps you find the odds of stuff happening - dorky, I know) and just finished setting up my profile so I can look at the odds of stuff happening specifically to me.

When you finish, it displays a bunch of stuff about you based on your profile parameters (age, race, sex, etc.). The very first one on the list of odds for me is: "1 in 6.33. The odds a married non-Hispanic white alone female 15 - 44 has ever had problems conceiving or carrying a pregnancy to term are 1 in 6.33 (US, 3/2002 - 2/2003)."

Thanks, asshats. Just had to bring THAT up, didn't you? Crying I know it's been months since the loss, but it's still a sore spot...although to be fair, I don't know if it ever won't be. It just made me feel very blah all of a sudden.

(BTW, the profile doesn't ask you pregnancy questions, so it's not like the software knew that I had miscarried/am pregnant/was TTCing/whatever...I was just surprised that it was the first damn thing on the list.)

Re: :-(

  • Boo to that. Statistical programs don't have feelings and can't act sensitively -- but we humans feel you and send "feel better" vibes your way! 
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  • Ugh, as if you need a reminder hon!

    I found that too, regarding things happening to remind me of my miscarriages. For me, personally, the years in between then and now have lessened the sadness. I DO still find that I think of those babies from time to time and calculate how old they would be now (one would be 11 and one would be 9), what they might look like etc. I look at Maya and think "What IF you were one of the babies I lost...? I would never know what I'd be missing and that would be terrible".  

    Also, get OFFFFF that statistics site girly! There's too many 'what-if's' in life to have to think about ALL of them! Stick out tongue

     

  • i'm sorry :( i think you are right in that it will always be sad to be reminded of your loss, i don't see how that kind of feeling can just kind of go away :(
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    I found that too, regarding things happening to remind me of my miscarriages. For me, personally, the years in between then and now have lessened the sadness. I DO still find that I think of those babies from time to time and calculate how old they would be now (one would be 11 and one would be 9), what they might look like etc.

    Ditto this.  I've had a loss as well and it never goes away - just lessens as the years go by.  And I agree with the rest of Tina's post.....there are WAY too mnay 'what-ifs' in life to think about them all.  It is sad that stat came up, but look at all that you have to look forward to!

  • I hear you.  I would have been due this week, actually.  It's been rough to look at a calendar the last few days.

    And yeah -- get off that site! 

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