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WHY?

My family is GREAT at the guilt trip.  I think they've perfected it.  We get SO MANY cracks about not coming to see them, etc.  And we started shutting people up with cracking back that no one comes to see us (we live no more than an hour and a half drive from the one who lives the furthest.)

So WHY... tell me, PLEASE,... do people then comment about how they were in our town on X day, or Y day... but they never call?

To me, this shows that you have no interest in "visiting with" us.  You were less than 2 miles away but never bothered to call to see if we were home, but then guilt trip us for not seeing us in months?!

Re: WHY?

  • Because they are family and family is always good at guilt tripping.  My mom is great at it.  Not really sure what to tel you.  I don't think it will ever end it seems to be a fact of life. 
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  • Yep, this is just what they do.  I think parents take lessons while they're pg with you...it's like it's required before you come into the world.
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  • Thats not cool, I already feel guilty about something most of the time anyways so I hate when people make it worse.
  • I know excatly what you mean.  How the heck are you supposed to know they were in town if they didn't call to tell you!  Super annoying, then they try and make you feel guilty about it.
  • imagejalisni:
    I know excatly what you mean.  How the heck are you supposed to know they were in town if they didn't call to tell you!  Super annoying, then they try and make you feel guilty about it.

    I don't go to their towns and then not call them to see if we can meet up!  I'd feel horrible and would feel guilty!  Maybe they're trying to transfer their guilt onto us - like we should be the ones to purposefully drive the hour and a half to their town to see them, but when they're in our town, they can't swing the 5 minutes to our house? (Most of my siblings, actually, have never been to our house. Only 2/6 have ever come up.)

  • imagePaula051907:

    imagejalisni:
    I know excatly what you mean.  How the heck are you supposed to know they were in town if they didn't call to tell you!  Super annoying, then they try and make you feel guilty about it.

    I don't go to their towns and then not call them to see if we can meet up!  I'd feel horrible and would feel guilty!  Maybe they're trying to transfer their guilt onto us - like we should be the ones to purposefully drive the hour and a half to their town to see them, but when they're in our town, they can't swing the 5 minutes to our house? (Most of my siblings, actually, have never been to our house. Only 2/6 have ever come up.)

    This happens to us all the time - Everytime we see some of my older cousins, they'll say "we've got to get together...just stop by when you are in the area."  Umm, I'd have to know where you live to stop by!

  • Families are good for that.  I just give it right back to them.  Crap like what you described above annoys me to no end. 
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