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wedding video

i need to vent. a friend of ours took video at our wedding ( we did not ask him to) and it was great. he then offered to have it burned onto a DVD or somehow get it on a website we could download it from. that was in June. we are going to visit my parents this fridy in South Carolina and I asked him over a month ago if we could get it by this week, which of course he said yes. He is def one of our most unrealiable friends but after assuring me it would be done, i am at the end of my rope. He has been to our house 3 times in the last few weeks, each time i have asked him to rbing it over. he forgets. now i just left hjim a message that i have to have it by thursday and what do i need to do? I offered to drive to his house the night before the flight to go get it if i have to, he has not responded yet. i am so pissed b/c it has been really hard with my aprents so far away udring all the planning for the wedding i would love to watch the video with them. i am hoping that our frined gets his act together and at least calls me to set up a time i can drive 40 minutes to go pick up the DVD.

Re: wedding video

  • it sounds like it is not done and he is stalling.  i dont think it is possible to forget it all 3 times!
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  • yeah i even texted him on sunday to please bring it before he came over and then he got there, he just said, no i forgot. i wanted to punch him in the face.
  • H's friend did ours and was taking forever and when we asked him about it, he fessed up and admitted it was pure laziness and he was taking advantage because we were friends.  We still got it back within 6 months which I think is great.
  • He is doing you a favor.  You didn't ask him to tape your wedding so I am wondering why you now think you can demand the video?  It might not be high on his priority list.  I would think if you really wanted a video and it was priority you would have contracted a professional to do the job.  I hate to sound snarky but it just sounds like you are bitching about a friend who is doing a favor for you.

  • oh i'm definiely b1tching about a friend, i admit. but the thing that kills me is how many times he offered to put it together and when they first did it all i cared about was having it done "in time to take with me to show my parents", which i told him several times. I think it was beyond nice that they made the video, but the only reason i wanted it is to show my folks. I'm certainly not demanding it as if we paid him for it. it's not professional at all, and i will prolly let my parents keep it. i just wanted to watch it WITH them, and if i dont have it by friday then I dont know when we will get that chance. I guess i can wait till Christmas, that is the only other time we will definitely see them for about 6-7 months. i know i'm being b1tchy, but he says he has the DVD at his house and just keeps "walking out without it" and that is frustrating.
  • Since he's doing you a favor it probably isn't on his top five list of things to do.  Things come up and stuff happens.  Maybe something came up in his life and your video had to take the back burner.
  • i hear what everyone is saying, but it's done, it's on the DVD and apparently just sitting in his house, unless he is out right lying about it. I would totally understand that my wedding video is not high on anyone's list, but he burnt it directly into a dvd, no editing, or music or anything, it's done. yeah, just hoping i can drive up and get it thursday night.

  • Have you been really direct with how you feel?  I know if I were in your situation, I would probably be really careful with what I said bc it was a huge, nice favor.  However, there comes a point where maybe you need to be blunt and say "you say my dvd is done and sitting there, I am free on __ I am coming over to pick it up.  Is it done or not?"  

    I agree that it probably isnt the top of his priority list, but if he says it is done, I dont see an issue with you being direct about getting it!  

  • It stinks that he's taking forever with it. Sure, it was a favor and he can work on his own timeline, but to me, part of the favor of agreeing/volunteering to tape it is to finish it. The favor wasn't taping it... the favor was to have a completed wedding video.

    Favors are always a sticky situation... I learned that the hard way with wedding stuff, too.

    GL - hope you get it soon!

  • I would say if you don't have a contract you're pretty much on his schedule.  Even with a contract you can't always get things when and how you want them :::stinkeyeatmarkjones:::

    Your best bet is to wait a month and see what happens.  Tell him you want to make copies for the holidays.

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