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Worried over DH's weight...
I noticed this morning that DH's favorite t-shirt is starting to get a bit snug on him, okay it is snug, period.
Like most men DH carries his weight in his gut and it worries me for the future, I don't want to flat out say "Honey you need to lose weight" out of fear that I'll hurt his feelings and make him think I see him as "fat" which isn't it at all, I think he's put weight on, but as have I though I do exercise and watch what I eat. His job is 10 hour shifts of being on his feet and building machines, but his eating habits are what really upset me. I understand allowing yourself one snack as long as the calories wont send you overboard but he'll eat say a single pack of poptarts quick for breakfast but may add a couple cookies in with it. If we go out to say Burger King he'll get a meal with a value menu sandwich with it...It worries me for his health sake but I don't know how to tell him that I think he needs to start eating better...I don't want to make him sound like some lazy man who let himself go, like I said it's not that "oh he's fat" it's, diabetes that run in his family as well as heart disease and I don't want to see him go down that path.
Any suggestions to get DH eating healthier without just saying "honey you need to lose weight" ?
-p.s - DH is 6'0 and has a "husky" build, muscular and has wide ribcage, big boned i suppose....
Like most men DH carries his weight in his gut and it worries me for the future, I don't want to flat out say "Honey you need to lose weight" out of fear that I'll hurt his feelings and make him think I see him as "fat" which isn't it at all, I think he's put weight on, but as have I though I do exercise and watch what I eat. His job is 10 hour shifts of being on his feet and building machines, but his eating habits are what really upset me. I understand allowing yourself one snack as long as the calories wont send you overboard but he'll eat say a single pack of poptarts quick for breakfast but may add a couple cookies in with it. If we go out to say Burger King he'll get a meal with a value menu sandwich with it...It worries me for his health sake but I don't know how to tell him that I think he needs to start eating better...I don't want to make him sound like some lazy man who let himself go, like I said it's not that "oh he's fat" it's, diabetes that run in his family as well as heart disease and I don't want to see him go down that path.
Any suggestions to get DH eating healthier without just saying "honey you need to lose weight" ?
-p.s - DH is 6'0 and has a "husky" build, muscular and has wide ribcage, big boned i suppose....
Re: Worried over DH's weight...
I don't know how you are, but I need a healthy eating and exercising buddy.
How about asking him if he would help you with a "lifestyle" change. Nothing extravagent, and not even a diet, but just that you'd like the both of you to eat better, and more healthily and you'd really need his help to stay on track!
Do you have kids or are you ttc? That can sometimes be a way to broach a health conversation...if you've talked about ttc then you can start that convo again and mention that you've read somewhere that it's easier to conceive if both partners are eating healthy at healthy weights and at healthy weights.
Thank you for the suggestions : )
im sure there are some women on this board who will disagree with my more passive approach because you need open communication in a marriage...but rather than bringing it up with him and risking offending him, having him be opposed to dieting, or making him think you think he is fat or unattractive, maybe first try to control things from your end.
my mom is on weight watchers and has lost 60 pounds, my dad is anti-dieting but he has lost 18 pounds inadvertantly just by the way my mom has changed things.
encourage him to eat out less by making more meals at home and buying stuff to pack lunches. buy less snacks or more healthy snacks, prepare lower calorie/lower fat dishes or just substitute your normal dishes with lower fat ingredients or multi grain pastas/rices.
the other thing that my mom has done is when she cooks a meal for the two of them and the recipe says it makes several servings, she scales it back. yes there are less leftovers which means she is cooking every night, but there is less available to serve yourself so you're less likely to fill your plate or go back for seconds and thirds.
good luck!
I switched our foods up and DH has lost some weight too, not that he needed too, but just from eating healthier.
He hates whole wheat bread, but I now buy whole grain white and he doesn't know the difference. I also buy the Barilla whole wheat or Barilla Plus pasta.
Also, I would just tell him that you need a little more motivation with your workout and ask him to join in. This way it's kind of falling back on you too so it looks like the team approach. Good luck!