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what is up with people these days?
Since coming out of the knocked up closet at work a week or so ago, I've gotten all kinds of bizarre questions from people.
Surprisingly, the most common question I get is whether or not I got pregnant on purpose or if it was an accident. I mean - seriously? Are we really asking people this question now? What do they expect me to say? ?It was a total accident, but we?d have too much guilt if I got an abortion ? what?s your stance on the debate?? or ?Oh no, it was on purpose. We?ve been having sex like rabbits for months. Want to hear which position worked??
Then there's the matter of fertility drugs. I'm not sensitive about this, but I know some women could be so I find it kind of offensive that people keep asking me if we had IVF or I was on fertility meds to have twins. There's even one old bat (who's a bit weird at the best of times) who is going around telling people that she thinks I'm lying because "people just don't have twins without treatment - it's not natural!" Whatever, lady. Whatever.
I know that people often lose their verbal filters around pregnant women and I doubt that, for the most part, anyone is trying to be offensive (I'm sure they're just curious) but these questions - especially the first one - are just rude!
Re: what is up with people these days?
LMAO!!
I so needed this... I have friends that were being a$$hats today and even though we'd had this convo before, it was like, seriously, i'm pg and hormonal - do we really need to rehash this now???
Is it a full moon?
If you say either of these things to anyone, I will send you anything you want.
I think that Australians are just generally crazy, but that's just my personal experience these days (living with the ILs).
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I've gotten the "Were you trying?" question a couple times but most people knew we were trying so luckily I've mostly avoided it. But it actually did kind of annoy me when I was asked.
I'm always curious about twins, too, but I usually just ask if they run in the family and see what kind of answer I get. That woman who thinks they don't happen naturally is just ignorant. I have a co-worker who has fraternal twins and she definitely didn't have fertility treatment. In fact, she's so fertile she got pregnant again (totally unplanned with 18 mo. old twins at home) and is due 3 weeks after me! Luckily, it's only one this time.
And I actually think I have 2 other co-workers who have natural twins.
wow, i can't believe people can be SO rude to ask "were you trying"! stupid crazy people.
and +1 to what everyone else has said
I actually think twins are fairly common. They don't run in our families, but my sister has a set and was supposed to have another, but she miscarried one early on and so gave birth to a singleton.
It's amazing how so many people think baby news is everyone's business. Part of the reason DH and I aren't publicizing our baby info is because we want to keep it "ours" for as long as we can. Sorry that you're around people who are so clueless about boundaries!
This was our original plan, but unfortunately the double bundle means I'm already clearly pregnant at 13 weeks, so I knew I couldn't hide it any longer lol. But if we were just having one, I'd be keeping it a secret until labor. Or something.
some people are just rude. alix is right. the questions just never end. i am sure when you weren't PG yet (and i get these questions too), people kept asking when are you planning have kids..then whether or not you have problems conceiving..and now, you are PG, they ask if it's planned or not? LOL.
Oh just wait, the fun has just started! Just wait until the babes are here, the amount of stupid questions multiplies!
My favorite, and only asked by male co-workers which made it even wierder for me: did I plan on breastfeeding? I seriously don't think it's any of your business, thank you very much!
Wow. The nerve of some people! I think sometimes people ask questions just to be polite ("Do you know if they're boys or girls? Do you plan to find out?" "Have you thought of names yet" etc. etc.), but those questions are just too much!
I've been with my preggo friends when coworkers, acquaintences, and even complete strangers just walk right up and touch their bellies. Hope they know better in OZ!
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