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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
drawing the line: speaking your mind vs safety
I was having a discussion with a few friends the other day... and someone mentioned that if they see someone litter from their car, they will beep at them. Another friend was horrified, said she minds her own business! lol This got into a discussion of what is our business (the planet/environment) or not, and how other people could potentially react to it (pull out a handgun from the glove compartment or something).
Do you ever think about things like that? I definitely feel that way sometimes but am fearful of someone having a crazy reaction, and then I feel guilty for not doing the right thing.
Re: drawing the line: speaking your mind vs safety
I once chewed out a woman who left her grocery cart directly in front of my car because she was too lazy to put it away (we were ~20 steps from the cart-return area). So I guess I speak my mind when it suits me?
But, this was an altercation between two grown women in suburban Ohio. I probably wouldn't have done that if it was in front of my first apartment's scary bad-neighborhood grocery store. Or maybe I would've... they had a cop stationed out front 24/7.
If I were honestly concerned about my safety, I'd keep it to myself. I speak out when irritation outweighs fear of injury!
This is me, too.
This reminds me of a few years back, when a girl got shot (and died) at a night club in Vancouver for trying to stop a group of guys from beating up another guy. I remember there were a lot of arguments between those who called the girl's actions "stupid" and those who thought she did the right thing. It is really hard to draw the line.
I have to admit that this is pretty much me, too. Ben will sometimes speak up, but in a fairly passive aggressive way - like if we see a smoker dropping their cigarette butts all over the place, he'll turn to me and say really loudly, "God I hate it when smokers litter. It's SO disgusting." On the one hand I guess it's better than chicken me who doesn't say anything, and on the other hand I'm nervous that one of these days we'll get beaten up lol.