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sometimes i think he doesn't like me.
this is how i feel about H. Ugh. I dont know what it is going on. Right now we are just in this funk. I feel like he doesnt like me, or care if i'm around. We argue & bicker about every single thing. I ask him what wrong, he says i'm sick of you *****ing at me... well i wouldnt *** at him if he would act like i freakin' exist. He just does whatever he wants to do and i feel like he has no concern for me what so ever- i feel like i felt in 2007 right before we broke up for 5 mths... not a good feeling. I just feel like crap. i try to give him space, but dam* i want him to pay attention to me. ... i do everything by myself- without him.... Went to Georgia by myself, he didn't want to go... went to a wedding, by myself, he didnt want to go. and i was going to a halloween part tomorrow night- by myself, he didnt want to go (im not going ot the party ne more- it was at my friends moms house -the friend live in GA, but she isn't comin down ne more- her mom lives next door to my mom).. we never do anything together, by ourselves, someone is always around. he goes over to the neighbors house and just sits over there. he says "i dont like to sit at home"...uh, so you sit 50 feet away at the neighbors? what kind of sense does that make?
last night my sister and her 2 kids came over for dinner. H went to his aunts to fix a lightbulb or something (i don't know, his uncle died in dec and H goes over there ne times his aunt needs something).... then he calls and says he is going to see his friends new house. WTF? we have people over. geez. i mean i know its my sister, but geez. RUDE. my sister asked several times when was H going to be home...good question.
I dont know what to do, or what to say. 
Am i just being stupid?
Re: sometimes i think he doesn't like me.
Every couple has arguements about things I'm pretty sure we don't want to argue about. Everyone goes through it - you are not alone! Sometimes it seems like H is trying to pick a fight about something, but then I'll look back on what I may have said/did beforehand and it makes sense that he got upset.
Just try to keep and open mind and remember that every story has TWO sides. Maybe you can try to sit down together tonight and watch a movie, have a drink, something relaxing... then try to lovingly talk about what's up.
Good Luck!
A few random thoughts - is he annoyed that suddenly you are neglecting him because you are spending too much time running, looking for races and dreaming about expensive running clothes. (I think H felt this way a few months ago before we talked about it). Does he still want kids right NOW and you're just not ready? Do you need to talk more about that? Again, GOOD LUCK!!
yes. he wants kids RIGHT NOW- we just got done having a lengthy conversation about this. I don't know what to do....i will not go into details bc it would be TMI...but he really wants kids- he said he wouldn't be upset if i was to get pregnant right now- uhm!
He says he doesn't care what I do, i don't think he cares that I run. I really only spend about 30min every couple of days running, its to hot here still to be doing any long runs. 3 miles nearly kills me at this point! The high today was in the 90's, and the humidity makes it worse- so i don't think he is upset about that. as far as my running clothes go, i've bought everything I have at Ross or Target- I haven't spent but maybe $60 total on everything I have. I am going to ask for shoes and a garmin forerunner 305 for Christmas- so I don't think that is the issues. I think I do something that irritates him, he doesn't say anything about it, so i don't know. Then everything just irritates him and it keeps escalating till he just blows... He is horrible at sharing his feelings.
We did talk tonight sort of.. he said "we are good babe"... lol... so i guess that is the reassurance I needed from him.
Sorry this a bit late.... but I'm glad you were able to talk a little bit. I think the issue of when to have kids is a tough one. I'm glad that for now, H and I both know we don't want kids yet. However.. I'm afraid that when I'm ready he still won't want kids for another 5 or 10 years. Hmmm.
Just keep trying to be understanding and keep the lines of communication open. I think you are 100% right to be open about not wanting kids yet. Once you have them, you have them forever. I'm sure once you're done with school and more settled, you will be ready. Maybe you need to reassure him that in a few years - 2 or 3 or whatever - that you will eventually be ready. Good Luck!
I can tell you that your not alone! Dh and I struggle just like you do. I think its normal to a point.....but add a 3 year old and me being pregnant into it and its makes it worse sometimes.
I agree with pp that keep communicating and make sure you both have time for yourselves and then time together alone also!
I'm sorry I'm so late into this and that you've been having a hard time, Jena. It sounds like you're at a better point now and have worked some things out which is great.
When I first moved in with DH (then, FI) we had a couple of these patches. What it came down to was that we had both been used to living pretty solitary lives (I lived by myself from 19-33) and we were both trying to figure out a balance between alone time and us time. With a lot of conversation and some "growing pains" disagreements, we got through it and settled into what is comfortable for us both.
It all takes time but, it also takes a lot of open comunication.
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