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me = selfish cow
2 years ago, SIL, her boyfriend/fiance/whatever you want to call him and their infant daughter came to our town for Christmas. They stayed with us and it was...not good, to say the least. (I think I posted some stories at the time, like how they brought drugs into my veeeery anti-drug home and left about 200 - no exaggeration - cigarette butts scattered all over my front yard.)
Last year, Ben's parents decided to travel interstate to visit Ben's other sister for Christmas, and Ben and I decided to stay here by ourselves. Best.Christmas.Ever. I'm not even kidding. It was AWESOME. Didn't have to travel anywhere, do anything, or run interference with family members who don't get along. No cooking, no cleaning, no mounds of dirty dishes. Didn't even have to put on real clothes, just stayed in our PJs all day. We both looooved it and agreed it was easily the best Christmas either of us have had as adults. Have I used the word AWESOME yet?
So I just found out that my SIL and her now-2-yr-old and maybe boyfriend/fiance/whatever you want to call him will be coming down to visit for about 3 weeks over Christmas. She won't be staying with us (I'd have thrown a hissy fit if it was even suggested), but will be staying with MIL & FIL, who consequently have decided to stay in town for Christmas this year. And I know it's pathetic and selfish, but I'm really bummed that we won't get another cruisey, "just us" Christmas again this year (the following year we'll have the kids, so from that point on it will be all family, all the time). And they're going to be here for THREE FREAKING WEEKS! I know we won't have to see them every day, but we'll be expected to hang out at the IL's probably 4 days a week now.
*sulks*
Re: me = selfish cow
You're not a selfish cow. You just have hard to get along with relatives that you can thank Ben for.
Last year when we went back to South Carolina for Christmas, the 'other' relatives weren't there. (Remember the redneck ones, with the child who called me a skank? Yeah, those lovely relatives.) Like you and Ben last year, we were soooo relieved that we had a drama-free Christmas holiday and it was one of the first vacations where we weren't woken up early each morning by that kid yelling in the bathroom or laughing his head off while watching cartoons.
I say be anti-social, enjoy your holidays as you like. You definitely shouldn't feel obligated to spend so much time over at the IL's, especially when I'm sure you'll be *ahem* incredibly tired and fatigued from being pregnant with the twins.
LOL good point!
Not to mention the !*&($*#&% allergies that I can't treat thanks to the wee pirates. The allergies flare up even worse when I'm at the IL's house (they have a billion allergenic plants around their house, and once I get an allergic reaction, things that I'm not normally allergic to - like dandruff-y dogs, of which they have two - tend to make it worse). Although I don't think they really get the allergy thing - this morning we dropped our dogs off at their house for the day, and I stayed in the car for the 2 mins it took so I wouldn't be exposed to all the plants (I asked Ben to explain the situation since they know I have allergies), and his dad cheerfully came out to the car and opened the door and chatted away to me while I'm like "DUDE CLOSE THE DAMN DOOR! You're killing me!"
Also, this is one of my favorite lisak stories of all time.
See, there you go. Your escape plan. Fatigue and allergies. You and Ben are all set!
Jaime & Brent
Oahu, Hawaii | Sept. 9, 2005
My Food Blog - Good Eats 'n Sweet Treats
I totally agree....3 weeks is a loooong time! I'm sorry
At least your IL's aren't around all year long like mine are!
Cerclage placed @ 21w6d due to CI (IC)
Wow, I'm jealous now, just listening to how great that was for you!
I don't think you're being selfish (or maybe I'm just really selfish as well??). Hopefully you can create some boundries with them so that it won't be miserable.
(couldn't decide which smiley was more appropriate)