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me..a PG bridesmaid??
hi girls! i haven't posted in awhile - things have been very busy with a baby in the house 
anyways, my cousin recently asked if i wanted to be a bridesmaid at her wedding. i accepted and then realized that baby #2 might be somewhere in the works between now and the date of her wedding. i'm not sure how she would feel about having a pregnant bridesmaid...or how i would feel for that matter (morning sickness, etc). should i tell her about this now ...before it happens or wait until it happens and then let her know? also how would you phrase this to her? i basically want to let her know that baby #2 might be in the near future and that if she would like to ask someone else, i totally understand and wouldn't be offended. any advice would be helpful - thanks!
Re: me..a PG bridesmaid??
awww it's so good to see you here - Zoi is so cute!! love that pic
I don't think you need to bring up your mixed feelings about being a BM but I think it would be fair to tell her that you are thinking about TTC #2 and there is a possibility that you'd be PG at the time of her wedding. just start off the conversation by saying that you would be honored to be a BM for her and would love to but you just want to let her know about some possible issues that might crop up....and then just tell her what you just told us... that if she would prefer to ask someone else, you'd be fine w/that and wouldn't be offended at all....
not sure when the wedding is or how soon you plan on TTC but if there is a chance you won't be able to b/c you'll be in the 3rd tri then I would bring that up as a concern/possibility as well.
Jaime & Brent
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Agree with this. I was in this predicament recently and everything worked out fine.
My bff from college asked me earlier this year to be a BM in her wedding next June. At the time, we were TTC, so I explained that I would love to be a BM, but that I couldn't 100% commit at that time (esp. since her wedding was 5,000 miles away and so far in the future). She was completely understanding of it all.
A few months later, we got pregnant and since our baby is due just 2 months before the wedding, I eventually decided I couldn't commit to being in the party. Even though there's the slight possibility that we could travel for it, I wanted her to be able to plan for a for-sure BM, so I dropped out. I felt really sad about it, but she was totally understanding and she still has plenty of time to plan for a replacement. Good luck!