Throwing DH a surprise party - need advice

kyfirewife · November 2009

I decided last year I was throwing DH a surprise 30th BDay party, which is thiscoming January.

The only people that know are my parents.

#1 - when do I start telling other people (ie. his folks, etc)?
#2 - when do I send invites?

I don't want to do it too soon, so I don't have to worry about someone spilling the beans.

#3 - where to have it?
I can get a hall in Ohio for FREE. And it's close to my family, so I can throw him off by convincing him it's for some family function of mine.
But... it's close to MY family. About 45 min away from most of his family. And 90+ min away from most of his coworkers.
I don't want it to be HIS party, but then all the guests are MY family. Get it? But it's free, and it would be so easy to throw him off.
So WWYD?

Any other advice greatly appreciated.

TIA!

Party!!!

stillwaiting12 · November 2009

hmmm thats a tough one with it being 90+ minutes from his co-workers! I am with you and love free and really love that it would be easier to throw him off, but I think I would at least look for other options closer to home. Possibly ask family and friends if they live in a subdivision where you could rent their clubhouse or apartment clubhouses. If nothing else maybe your local township hall or etc.. Then it's thinking of the "plan" to get him there. I love throwing surprises, but in the same sense it's sooooo hard! We threw a surprise anniversary party for my parents 2 years ago and it was super hard to keep the secret. I know my aunt ended up telling my mom, which I still haven't forgiven her for, but my dad didn't know until they pulled up so it worked out ok! I made the invitations and sent them out about 3 weeks before the party. It took alot of help to decorate and get all the food together etc... so make sure you ask plenty of people to help you out. The only other downside to having it further from your house is how are you going to explain to DH that you are gone all day for decorating/set up? It may be easier to do closer to home where you can sneak out for a few hours to set up and then go home to get ready and come with him.

angelina477 · November 2009

What area are you looking? Maybe there are other free options.

aphroditeindior · November 2009

1. Whenever if they can keep a secret. I had my MIL help plan DH's grad party, so I told his parents months ahead.

2. Maybe a month-ish out?

3. Free hall + party bus = safe awesomeness

firegirlkorb1 · November 2009

I would send invites out 6 - 8 weeks in advance for a surprise party

Is there a Firehouse close to you that has a hall that you could have the party at?

kyfirewife · November 2009

Thanks for the tips. I kinda want to hold off on telling people, because I don't trust them to keep the secret! LOL. Maybe I'll tell his family here shortly, and not tell anyone else until the invites go out.

Firegirl - brilliant idea! There's a firehouse down the street from us that has dances for the kiddos all the time, so it must have a hall or at least a big enough bay or something. I've never been inside myself, but I know two people that run there.
Oh, and I could get him there by telling him they want to talk to him about his business, potential client and all.

Ooooooh... kind of excited about the idea now. I hope they'll do it!

Thanks again everyone!

meg1514 · November 2009

I don't know if this is an option for you, but we have held work events at Molly Malone's in Covington, KY. They have an upstairs room that is large with its own bar and is private. There is no fee for the room rental (or at least there wasn't the last time we used it.) They also have food options for catering. I was concerned about it being smoky, but with it being upstairs and away from the rest of the 'bar', it wasn't bad at all. Good luck!

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