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I need to vent about ignorant people **long**
I just need to vent about this to someone for 5 minutes and then I'm going to let it go. My cousins wife is a b*tch. Excuse my French, but she always has been and always will be. She caused a bunch of drama with my wedding and now she is causing it with my sisters.
My cousin told my aunt the other day that he would be taking her to my sister's wedding and she said well what about mrscousin? He said oh she's not going. So my mom emailed her and said are you not going to the wedding and may I ask why not?
She e-mailed my mom back a long letter about how she doesn't believe in gay marriage, she can't go and support that, it goes against her "moral code" and on and on.
I am more than a little irritated because this woman is very tactless and rude and she always has been and I honestly think that she could just suck it up and go to the wedding because it's family.
She is too blinded by her ignorance to realize that the only thing she would be supporting is my sister and her future wife and their happiness. She's not supporting gay marriage, she's not voting to make it legal or lobbying for it. She likes to make everything about her and it's really getting old now.
The frosting on the cake is that she spoke for her husband and says "Btw cousin doesn't believe in it either he's just going for your daughter" when, I know Facebook isn't a relable source, but I saw on there the other day a quiz he answered where he called people who don't support gay marraige homophobes. I hate when people don't stand in their convictions and have to drag other people into it to make them feel better about themselves doing something that is wrong.
So after the e-mail my sister e-mails cousins daughter and says are you going to be able to make the wedding. Cousins daughter says "I'd love to but I don't know if my mom will let me" This girl is 19 years old! Seriously.
Ugh it just irritates me and not because she doesn't believe in what I believe in, because it's not my place to tell her what she believes is wrong, but because I don't like the way she went about it.
I think that being a good christian would mean supporting your family and caring about their happiness. I don't think God is going to send her to hell for going to a wedding, dancing and eating some cake. If she is so worried about what God thinks about gay marriage then I'm sure He will handle it when my sister dies. That's not her place.
And maybe I'm wrong here I don't know. Maybe she is standing by what she believes and I can't fault her for that but honestly I think she should have just lied and said she had an event or something. Anything but say how you feel going to her wedding is a horrible thing.
This is just the straw that broke the camels back with her causing senseless drama in my family for the past 10 years and I think it's finally come to a head and we won't be hearing much from her after this. So in the end this is probably a good thing.
Re: I need to vent about ignorant people **long**
I'm so sorry, Belle. Especially for your sister. She doesn't need that kind of crap revolving around her wedding day.
You're right that it's one thing for her to stand by what she believes in but it's a whole other thing for her to make others feel badly about her beliefs.
That was my first thought when I started reading. Why didn't she just say she had something to do? Why make such a huge issue out of it?
As crappy as it is, I would try to look at it as a blessing in disguise. Your sister and her FI wouldn't want someone there that doesn't love them and support their lives together.
ditto all of this, especially the last paragraph.
im sorry your sister is having to deal with this on top of trying to finish planning the wedding.