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Before we give thanks, can we have a venting session?
I need a good b!tch session, anyone care to join me?
I have two issues:
(1) I am so freaking sick of this job hunting process and my horrible, no good, rotten bad luck. I got up at 3:30am yesterday to catch a 5:10am train to NY for a day of interviewing. Once there, I felt like they didn't ask me particularly compelling questions, which leads me to believe they're not serious about bringing me on board and only did the interviews because their colleagues that I met in Boston pushed them to meet me. On top of that, I was basically told that though they do want to hire someone it probably won't happen until January. This is the third or fourth opportunity where I've gotten really far along in the process, people really like me, but I get screwed in the end by things out of my control like budget, regulatory issues, etc. AAAAARGH!!!
(2) I'm also getting really frustrated about this wedding I'm a bridesmaid in early next year. All the other bridesmaids are in the same town as the bride and they're not very good about keeping me in the loop on things; I get these e-mails that are like walking into the middle of a conversation. I've been pushing them since Sept. to make decisions about the shower and bachelorette since the wedding is the first weekend of Jan. I sent them all this info on doing a bachelorette party in NYC because they asked me to do the research, and then they give me no feedback so I thought that idea was out. Then yesterday I find out that they DO want to go to NYC and now are rushing to throw it together for a couple of weeks from now. WTF? I already made commitments for that weekend, they don't have any activities planned, and now everything is more expensive because it's so last minute.
On top of that they didn't even send me an invitation for the bridal shower this weekend. Granted I told them I couldn't fly out for it on top of flying for a bachelorette, but c'mon! Common courtesy says I should still be invited, IMHO. There's been a few other things that have happened too, but overall I'm just not particularly looking forward to this wedding anymore.
Re: Before we give thanks, can we have a venting session?
1. That really sucks. I hope you can find something soon.
2. I would be LIVID about being left out of the shower. Not only should you have gotten an invite, your name should have been on the invite itself, and you should have been included in the planning. I'm guessing you would have been more than willing to contribute with planning and paying, even though you couldn't be there. I would have been anyway.
OK, now I feel lame because apparently no one else has anything to vent about
jCam, yes, I have definitely volunteered many times over to help with planning, paying, etc. I agree that I should have been included as one of the hostesses, but I suspect I wasn't. I may never know since I didn't get an invitation.
1. You have been so patient. I don't blame you for getting frustrated. I had to get up at 4am one time to fly to an interview for a job that I didn't end up getting. It was such a waste of time and I was exhasuted by the end of it. At least I didn't pay for the flight though.
2. Being a BM is really such a pain. I was lucky in one of my BFF's weddings, there were just three of us, so we were able to figure things out together. Still, the MOH pretty much took over, which was fine because she was MOH, but it was hard to let go of the control sometimes. Your situation is so difficult though. Hopefully you can still have fun at the wedding! Once the party starts you don't have to hang out with them any more.
My own vent/b!tch session would just involve house hunting issues, and I don't feel like getting into it today. I'm just sick of actively house hunting for over a year and continuing to get out-bid on properties that we love. Siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh. Oh, and I want my own washer/dryer SO BAD. I hate going down to the laundry room and finding that someone else just started a load and I have to wait. It throws off my whole schedule for the day.
Ugh, I would totally be hurt/ mad if my name was left off the shower invites... I really hate planning things with other people- it's just a headache. I'm so sorry!!
I'm trying to think of my vents.... I've come to realize that several people who I considered good friends are not and have disappointed me. I hate having expectations (basically that friends should be there for you when you need them) and then feeling let down.
Ugh, Rock, I'm so sorry! Both situations are so frustrating and would seriously put me over the edge. I can't believe they had you go all the way down to NY for such a lame interview. Hopefully it really is something positive though! And I would be SO angry at the bridesmaids about both the shower and bachelorette. Ugh! I'm glad you vented- it's good to get it off your chest.
Let's see, here are my vents:
1) I'm so sick of my father acting like a child. Seriously, I can't take any advice he gives me seriously because I want to sceam at him for all the screwed up crap going on in his life. I fear when we move he's going to want to move in w/ DH and I and it's not happening. I'm nervous about it all and trying to avoid him. He needs to get it together!
2) I'm so frustrated at work. I don't want to say any more haha!
3) I don't want DH to work nights anymore. He's been home all week this week and I love having dinner and doing little projects around the house. I'm so annoyed that the working nights has to continue into at least the near future.
I kind of want to vent about my car insurance. I still haven't switched it over to MA, because it's 4 times more expensive than NH, and I still own my NH condo, so technically I'm still a resident of there. We're also actively looking for a better rate, so it's all in the works.
But because my car was hit in VT after I moved to MA, the insurance is being awful about helping me fix it. The woman from the claims dept has no idea what's going on, when my agent submitted my claim for me, the company (not the agent, the agent's my mom so she knows all the info by heart anyway) somehow messed up my paperwork, and every time the woman calls me about the car, she thinks she's trying to reach my mom, and gets all confused about who I am and why she's talking to me. She has thought that 1. I was borrowing my mom's car when it was hit, 2. my mom owns the condo in NH and I rent from her (to explain the MA/NH issue), and 3. my mom is my real estate agent (no idea why she thought that or what it has to do with anything). It's such a mess, I really don't get why she can't mark down these errors each time we speak so she can remember she's calling Catherine and not Carla (and also stop calling me Christy, "Catherine" and "Christy" are not the same name), and the last time we spoke, she said, "well, the insurance might not cover this damage because you moved to MA" Apparently MA has different laws than other states, such as, you need an appraiser to look at the car. I don't understand why I can't just get an appraiser, but claims woman seems to think that's nearly impossible.
....Until I got a call yesterday that the appraiser was AT MY HOUSE, waiting for me to meet him at 12:30pm, wondering why he couldn't find my car.?!? Um, do you want to maybe make an appt with me, rather than just randomly showing up at my house during the work day and expecting me to be there??
I just wish all of this could make sense. Or that I didn't care about how my car looked, and could be happy driving around with $1400 of damage on it.
?I also wish I didn't need new $600 tires.?
Back in September when we told our insurance agent we would be needing home owner's insurance when we closed in October she charged us for the rate we selected then (even though closing was at least a month away and we didn't have a firm date). Fine. She had the right address and sent us paperwork to our apartment.
When we closed she put on the insurnace binder to our attorney that we hadn't paid yet and we had to pay it again at closing. We call her and she couldn't find anything saying that we had paid, yet we had the credit card statement proving it! Eventually after 3 or 4 times back and forth we finally stopped dealing with her and sent our attorney our credit card statement and he gave us our money back.
THEN, she somehow skipped kindergarden and changed our address from 6 to 9! She sent us more paperwork to complete (about how many fire alarms are in the house, etc) that had the wrong address on it and DH called her to tell her it was right back in September/October in the other paperwork and to change it back. Again at least two more times she resent the paperwork with the wrong number! Eventually he had to call the manager of the branch to get it straightened out.
They also sent an associate from the office to look at the house and make sure it had what it was suppose to and they left a little note on the door saying they were sorry they missed us. Umm hello most people work, don't you think you should call us and make sure someone will be there?