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Is it too soon for me to start venting?

Just a quick little vent. So one of my friends just found out she was pregnant and I'm very happy for her and her DH. However, I had picked out my kids names years ago (even though DH and I won't be trying for another year or so) and she knew this. Today, I decided to check in on her and see how she was doing and if she'd picked out names and what do you know? She's stole the one I've wanted for a little girl for so long..I am quite ticked. Am I being ridiculous or do I have something to stand on? Sorry for the vent!!!

Re: Is it too soon for me to start venting?

  • The irrational part of me says yes you should be ticked especially if you told her your names that you picked out.

    The rational part of me says there are going to be other people with the same names and who knows in a few years you might change your mind.

    I would be irrational though and ticked off lol  

  • I am from the school of thought that names are sort of first come first serve, and if you don't want to risk someone using the name you like, don't share them to begin with. That being said, if you guys are really good friends, and this is something you guys have talked about a lot, then I may be a little peeved.
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  • Irrational it is, then! haha..It's more so a family name so I wasn't really thinking of budging on it..maybe she and I can't be friends anymore lol Now that's even more irrational..or maybe better yet, she'll just have a boy and I will beat her to it ;)
  • imageAligator28:
    That being said, if you guys are really good friends, and this is something you guys have talked about a lot, then I may be a little peeved.

     Ali, her and I have been friends roughly 15 years now..she was my maid of honor in my wedding, etc. Her and I have certainly talked about this in detail plenty of times. I'm just going to go with the flow and like you said, there's nothing I can do about it..just going to be a little peeved for a while I guess..lol

  • Since she just found out she's PG, ten bucks says she'll change her mind.
    ::two chest pumps and a peace sign for Jenn:: ~ MrsJudgeyPants

    This is legal advice. Circa 2011
  • imageJennifer18131:
    Since she just found out she's PG, ten bucks says she'll change her mind.

     

    True story. I have changed my mind many times, and names I thought my husband used to like, he vetoed right away.  

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  • First you have a 50/50 chance of not having a girl. Secondly I call BS on the name it was yours, but I see Ali's point too. If ya'll are that close I would talk to her.
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  • imageJennifer18131:
    Since she just found out she's PG, ten bucks says she'll change her mind.

    This is true! I told my mom about it and she says, "Well call her tomorrow and tell her you changed your favorite little girls name to Nicole or something..I bet she'll take that one too!" hahaha

  • yeah, a friend of mine did that too, luckily I had kinda decided I wasn't so into the name anymore so I didn't really care.  Our whole lives were like that though, anything I had she had to go get, even as kids.  It got to the point where when her mom would ask me where my mom bought whatever I was wearing, I'd lie because she'd always go buy it for her daughter and we'd look like freaking twins!
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  • I can relate Christen. Her and I have recently stopped hanging out and talking as much for those reasons. It seems like she is always trying to one up me..always trying to prove how much better she can be than me. And if I have something nice, she has to have nicer. She made sure to include today that her DH bought her a brand new car for her birthday...knowing how bad I need a new one...We just don't really have much in common anymore and I don't like people who brag like that..
  • I know several "one uppers".  They annoy the crap out of me.

    In regards to your situation...I am normally of the school of thought that no one "owns" a name.  That being said, I would be pissed.  Although ditto everyone else.  She will more than likely change her mind, you might change your mind about it, she might have a boy, heck, you might have all boys!  So it's not worth getting too upset over.  If you love the name, you should use it when your time comes.  Years from now when you haven't talked to her in years, you'd regret it if you didn't.

    All of that being said...I gave up the name Hannah (a family name) that I'd had my heart set on for YEARS b/c my FSIL told me that she was using Hannah for her phantom girl whether I used it or not.  According to her, "there will just have to be 2 Hannah's."  It bothered me enough to not use it.  So I may not be the best person to take advice from on this.  I'm a tad bit of a hypocrite.  =)

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