Just got off the phone with my mother - so apparently she didn't do the math on how we were spending our holidays. We're spending thanksgiving with my family and then driving up to see DH's family. For Christmas, we're spending it with DH's family and then driving down to see my family.
So she was doing some shopping and said she'd come up over the weekend to help me decorate my house. I said, well I won't be there this weekend - I'll be with DH's family. She said, oh, well they get you both holidays. I'm like - well so you do...we're spending the actual day with one family or the other and then going to see the other family. Ugh...just had to vent.
Re: Holiday Crash Test
Yeah, it's a hard transition for everyone. Just stick to your guns, and communicate everything like you have been.
Last Christmas we agreed that we would swap every year who gets the actual holiday. Last year, my family had thanksgiving and his family had Christmas. This year, it's reversed.