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Ugh, damn MIL
So, I love my ILs. I REALLY do. They are awesome. I asked MIL to watch Hunter today while I ran a bunch of errands. She was cool with it.
Then she called today and said "You can have him back when we're done with him - probably not until 7 or 8." (I was thinking more like 5) "We want to take him to the Festival of Lights."
I don't get to take my baby to the Festival of Lights first I guess? And I HATE when his night time routine gets interrupted, it pisses him off. And my ILs will tell me how he is "such an angel and slept the whole time." Yeah, we don't let him sleep the whole time or else he's up all night trying to catch up on feedings.
Then she topped it off by telling me to nap b/c - "you look tired." Nice way to say "you look like sh!t girl."
I just needed to vent. I want my baby back damn it.
Re: Ugh, damn MIL
That's not cool... I would be pissed too. I think maybe you should have DH talk to her about Hunter's routines.
And I get that she wants some time with her grandson, but the way she put it "you can get him back when we're done with him", it's just rude. She should really ask if you're ok with that.
Maybe that's the price you'll have pay to have them take him for a while, so just make sure you're willing to pay it...
Oh wow, I would be so mad. I understand that they love him and want to spend lots of time with him, but not letting you be the first to do holiday tradition stuff with him is over the line.
I'm not sure how you fix this without hurting feelings, but I hope you can set some boundaries.
Unfortunately, people say/do the darnedest things when they think they're being helpful. I'm sure she didn't mean it to be mean, just giving you some time for you.
As for the rest-I guess it should be a good thing if he did sleep through it-he won't remember it being his first time there, so you can cherish that later. Maybe ask her to let you know as there are things you want to do with Hunter first.
So sorry... and you could also reiterate what his schedule is to your MIL-if she doesn't know already.