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super emo ish. feel free to skip.
i'm super bitter, and i have no one else to whine to. and since the board is dead, i'll just put it here. good disclaimer, huh?
this saturday, there's a big family bash to celebrate the 50th anniversary of my great-aunt to a child molester. if you guys follow my blog, you know that the victim was me, and the rest of the family learned of this old, shameful wound last year. anyway, they were super supportive of me back then, but slowly began to incorporate chester back into their lives and now it's like nothing ever happened.
my mom, my aunt, and i are the only ones who refuse to have anything to do with them and the family members who didn't believe me. the rest of my aunts, uncles, cousins, even my grandmother are all attending this party. they've even been practicing a dance routine in secret to surprise the couple at the party (yes, my family is super cheesetastic like that). and, although i wouldn't have expected to be, i wasn't invited to this shindig (although my mom and aunt were).
i feel shat upon. this sucks.
Re: super emo ish. feel free to skip.
How would you have felt if you'd been invited?
This is a no-win situation for the hosts of the party. You'd be insulted and hurt either way.
This does suck. Unfortunately people have short memories, so it seems. Or maybe they figure you should be "over it" or doubt your story. Overall that's really craptastic.
I have one aunt I've completely disowned and want NO further contact with her. However, I have cousins that are younger than me and will likely get married over the next 5-10 years. I can't punish THEM and would want to attend their weddings, which would unfortunately bring me back in contact with my aunt.
However, I wouldn't actually go to a party celebrating something to do with HER.
I'm so sorry. This same thing happened in my family and I was so sad and disgusted that the victim of the molestation was the one that was blamed and shut out. It's awful.
I seriously wish you could choose your family the way you choose your friends. It would be a much happier world.
Something very similar happened in my family as well (except that relevant family members were notified as soon as it happened), so I know all too well how much it sucks.
My blog
Damn straight. The whole thing is horrible.
This sums it up.
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
I'm so sorry Wan. You have every right to be upset and angry about this.
This is right on -but I totally understand where you're coming from also Wan. Hugs girlfriend.