June 2009 Weddings
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Newlywed Question
What is the greatest challenge, and the greatest blessing of being in a marriage?
Re: Newlywed Question
Greatest challenge = not killing him
Greatest Blessing = partnership, stability, family, but above all--we really challenge each other on lots of levels because we're so different. The greatest blessing in our marriage may be the growth we each make as a result of the other's influence.
Greatest challenge - being a single newlywed.
Greatest blessing - knowing that our love and commitment to each other is more than strong enough to withstand the next few years, even if that means we have to live on different continents.
Greatest Challenge = sharing control/responsibility
Greatest Blessing = knowing we have each other no matter what. It makes me feel so secure to know he is there for me through thick and thin. We were always very committed before but marriage adds a whole other level.
Greatest challenge: I agree with Angel... in all seriousness though, its learning to not sweat the small stuff. I just keep reminding myself that we are in this for the long haul, I dont need to worry about whether or not he put his dishes in the dishwasher. However my OCD side reminds me to "train him right now rather than deal with it for the next 30 years"... see my dilemma?
Greatest Blessing: Knowing that every day I wake up with my best friend and come home to my best friend. He's my partner in everything no matter how trivial or significant, we're our own family now and will face everything together.
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Greatest challenge: Lately (like chrissy) has been being a single newlywed. But really, it's been dealing with in-laws, figuring out what WE want and how WE do things, and realizing that I'm totally stuck with this extended family.
Greatest blessing: similar to what everyone else said. Knowing he's my partner through everything. On bad days, knowing there's someone who just loves me totally. Just having someone there who has my back and who my life and my future matters to completely.
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Challenge: Learning to sweat the petty stuff around the house and not be on a set schedule in getting things done.
Blessing: Same as everyone else pretty much.. to spend every day with my best friend knowing that he's there everyday and just spending every night beside him. To finally live our life on our own and do things the way that we want to and start our own family someday... and just so thankful for the good jobs we have, our home, etc.
Greatest challenge: Managing everything. He works so much that I'm forced to handle pretty much everything else, the apartment, the cooking, the cleaning, all the errands, the social calendar, planning trips, scheduling appointments-- the works. Typically he doesn't have more than a few minutes to talk during the day, so we share an online calendar which sometimes makes me fee morel like his assistant than his wife. Blerg.
Greatest blessing: After nearly ten years, we still laugh together a million times more than we cry or argue. Regardless of the craptastic day we've both had, when we're together, nothing else matters. I don't know how I got so lucky...
I survived the RoLex wedding and all I got was this lousy husband.
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Greatest challenge: Similar to others, it really has been letting things go. I am a perfectionist and it has been difficult to deal with little things like dirty socks on the floor or leaves needing to be raked. I go back and forth between doing it myself and being angry about it or asking him to do it and feeling like a nag.
Greatest blessing: The stability of knowing that we're committed to each other for life and love each other infinitely. DH is my safe space--when I'm with him I feel all is right with the world.
Greatest challenge? Finances. We've had a joint account for 2 years, but I've always been responsible for paying the bills. Now B wants to be more involved (we're now completely dedicated to paying off debt since the wedding took the majority of our funds) and it's been super hard for me to let go and trust him to make payments. He's never not paid one, and I have no reason whatsoever to not trust him, but I have major control issues when it comes to finances haha. Luckily he knows this, and we've developed a system where we keep track on a spreadsheet to qualm my fears.
Greatest blessing? Knowing that we're both totally on the same page about things. We've been together for (almost) 7 years, finally out of school, and this is our time to work hard and play harder together. We're traveling, enjoying each other's company for once without knowing that we're only going to see one another 30 hours a week like when we were in college. We know we want to wait 3-4 more years before babies, we know we want a house within the next 3 years, we know that if we bust our bums, we can have a chunk of our effing huge student loans paid off before that time comes. And it's nice knowing that we have the same goals and values.