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Thanksgiving Vent (Yes, already)
So, DH and I are hosting at our house, approx 15 ppl (because we aren't really sure if one person is coming or not). DH's brother and SIL always do dinner at her Dad's house at like 11:00am, but DH and BIL also ALWAYS have to be together for holidays, so they also come to our house. Every year they are late and we have to wait around for them (because somehow if I don't ask SIL to bring anything she feels left out). This year I suggested they just come for desert since that is really easier on everyone. OH NOOOO, they HAVE to come for dinner. So she calls me and asks what time we are eating at I say between 2-3. She says she needs an exact time since they will be at her dad's first and she doesn't want to leave any earlier than she has to, so what time will we actually sit down to eat? So I calmly explain that I have no idea of knowing EXACTLY when the Turkey will be done. I am shooting for 2:00, but it could take a little longer, it then has to rest while I make the gravy put the green bean casserole and yams in the oven etc. So we will eat between 2-3, plan to be here around 2 and we will eat at some point after that. Not the answer she was looking for now she's all butt hurt (she is already mad at me because the conversation started with me saying that I am no longer going to use her crib, another story).
THEN, Step mom never cooks, ANYTHING (which is why we have all holidays at my house). So we went grocery shopping for Thanksgiving last week, and she insitsted I buy enough green bean casserole stuff for 25 people, I am not kidding. The regular recipe is for 12, she didnt think that was enough since we are having 15 (although 4 are kids) so I bought a crap ton of stuff. She just calls me to say that she has already made it so I dont have to worry about it. Now, DH is allergic to mushrooms, what the heck am I supposed to do with all of that cream of mushroom soup she made me buy??? Plus, isnt that a little early to make the casserole? The onions will get all soggy.
Sorry, just venting. It irritates me that everyone is always "just tell us what you want/need" and I am always SUPER easy going what what I ask them to bring (a pie, veggie tray for an app, that kind of thing) and then they do this. I mean, DH and I spend so much time on money on this, I feel like it is just totally unappreciated.
Re: Thanksgiving Vent (Yes, already)
Ditto Karrey - you host, your house, your time.
It never ceases to amaze me that people have the nerve to act like that. You just do what you were planning, and they can figure out what they're doing. You shouldn't have to shift around your entire day just to accommodate them.
For a day that revolves around eating which generally is not a stressful activity with time limits, people sure do make it difficult!
I'd be super pissed about buying all that stuff for the green bean casserole when Step Mom was going to make it anyway. Maybe you can donate the soup to a food closet?