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I feel like a real jerk
My friend has a blog...a funny one. She also shared with me quite some time ago and that she kept another blog, a single lady blog, that she hadn't updated for quite awhile but it was all about her adventures as a single (and not always happy) woman. At the time she told me the name of the blog. Out of curisoty then, I found the single lady blog and sent myself the link via email so I could check it (as I had encouraged her to write on it as she had alot to say on the subject). I hadn't checked it for a long time and this morning, we were emailing back and forth and she started talking about this "secret" blog she had started writing in, stuff that she felt that she didn't want to share with people that she knows, about her struggles with depression, family, etc. It made me recall her single lady blog so I went to my email for the link and, much to my surprise, she had, indeed been updating it. Lots. So I read through all the posts, and then she emailed to say that I had been reading the "secret" blog that she didn't want friends/family to read (she has some very techy way of tracking visits I guess). I feel like an a$$. Had I known that was the blog she was referring to, I wouldn't have read it. But, to be honest, it all stuff I was mostly aware of, nothing earth shattering. It never occured to me for a second that the two blogs were one in the same. Plus, who shares the name of a blog with you that they don't want you to read?! Ugh, I feel terrible. I feel like I've totally invaded something private. I am a clueless jerk.
Re: I feel like a real jerk
I think your feelings are valid (I'd feel badly also) as are hers, but it's not really your fault. How many times are we told not to post things on the internet that we don't want anyone we know to read/see? Many of us do it anyhow sometimes but that sorta makes it our fault. She could have used a diary or private computer document without posting it on the internet.
I would apologize and move on. I think it's a no fault situation.
You're not a jerk and you did nothing wrong. Honestly, I think she's being silly. I mean, it's a BLOG. If you really want to keep secrets, don't write them on the internet! How were you to know that this was not meant for your eyes... she shared the name of the blog with you!
If you want to smooth things over, just apologize for the misunderstanding, say that you had followed this blog a long time ago but you didn't realize that this was the "secret" blog. And maybe hint to her that blogs, being on the internet, are open for all to see.
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I don't know, could she have forgotten that she had told you the name of the blog? It sounds like maybe the blog recently evolved into something more private. Like when she first mentioned it, it was just something she played around with and didn't use much, but then she started using it as a more personal venue.
Whatever the case, I wouldn't feel too badly. How could you have known? Apologize, assure her you won't read it again (and you'll have to keep your promise since she can tell when you do), and move on. You're not a jerk!
If she didn't want you to read it why would she tell you all about it? Why let you in on the secret? Maybe she wanted someone to know how she's feeling. Maybe she's reaching out for help?
I'd be honest, tell her that you had read her single lady blog when she first mentioned it awhile ago and you were reminded you hadn't checked it in awhile when she mentioned blogging. Tell her you didn't realize they were the same since you figured she knew you had read the other one and didn't mean anything by it. You won't read it again if she doesn't want friends to see it, however if she wants to talk you are here to listen.
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I agree with the other ladies Mel, I don't think you did anything wrong, I'd probably feel bad too (since it obviously upset her), but you didn't do it on purpose, so Id appologize to her and move on.