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Help me think through this
I know this is super boring, but if anybody is bored and can help me think through this, I would appreciate it. I can't think of a solution.
E-mail from my mom. I added parenthesis with additional info to make it easier for you to understand. I can't think of what to do for the life of me.
Hi -
Christmas is turning out to be a little crazy this year. Not quite
sure what to do or think. It seems that some of our traditions are
going to have to change, unfortunately. So here are the facts.
Erin wants to do a Murphy(my immediate family) Christmas (exchange gifts etc.) on Christmas Eve.
Erin can?t do anything on Christmas Day day.
Erin can make the McDonough evening celebration. (big extended family on my side. This is a tradition.)
Justin (my brother) wants to spend time with Chelsey (his girlfriend) and her family. Thought that would be good on Christmas Eve. Told him last night that might be our new Murphy family celebration.
Brian ( my dad) plays 2 masses christmas morning. 9:30 and 11:15.
We usually spend Christmas Eve with Peggy, Jack, Mom and Wes. Sometimes Jayne. (random family members who have nothing else to do).
We usually spend Christmas Day Brunch with Mike, Sue, Megan, and Dorothy. (I will def have to miss this bc I'll be with M's family)
Solutions:
One solution, so that Erin and Meni can spend time with Mike and
Sue, would be an early celebration. Maybe on the 20th. Advantage:
Mike and Sue could then be up at Witch if they were so inclined. Is
that too much Erin and Meni? Maybe then Erin and Meni won?t want to be
with us on the 24th.
One solution, so that Justin could spend time with Chelsey. We do
a real, full fledged celebration on Christmas Eve and then he is free
to go to Chelsey?s on Christmas day. Only if we pre celebrate with
Mike and Sue though. .
How do we keep from jilting Peggy and Jack . . . Mom. If Jayne
doesn?t have plans, then they can all spend the evening together. If
not, I feel bad just leaving them hanging, with no one to celebrate
with. If that is the only way it can all come together this year for
us as a family, then I won?t have a choice.
Trying to find a win-win solution. Trying to establish a long term solution and tradition beginning.
Re: Help me think through this
Are you spending every Christmas day with M's family? Or are you alternating?
If you are alternating, I'd suggest them doing a big celebration on Christmas Eve every other year. That was when you are there for Christmas Eve you are still part of the festivities. Ad far as not upsetting Peggy and Jack, I'd have your mom explain to them that with the family expanding, Christmas is changing and they will be celebrating on Christmas eve every other year. Is there a reason Peggy and Jack cannot join? If so, have them come on the Christmas eves where you will be home for Christmas and the others they are on their own.
This sounds reasonable to me, and I can't think of any better ideas. It does get really hard to juggle the families and traditions when the "kids" start to grow up and do their own thing! I think most families go through these growing pains. I hope it works out without too many panties in a bunch!