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Oh, Mom...
This will be somewhat of a vent in case you didn't gather that from the subject line.
I just got an email from my mom. It "inquired" about all kinds of stuff regarding the baby. Like what names we have chosen and the godparent situation. She was "helpful" enough to provide several name suggestions for us. I replied as honestly (and as vaguely) as possible. I know she has some very opinionated thoughts on P's godparents but I don't want to hear them b/c I really don't GAF. (5 points to whoever figures out that acronym)
But what really chaps my ass about the email is the Christmas schedule she provided me with. She is going to cook at their house for my dad's family on Christmas Eve. This is a new thing that she started last year. My dad's family is not close and doesn't usually get together for holidays. While it's great that everyone suddenly wants to get together, Mom knows that my inlaws always celebrate on Christmas Eve. I know she knows this b/c the year we got engaged inlaws invited my family over for C.Eve and they came. I know that it's somewhat unreasonable to think that my family should accomodate us for the holidays but is it really that unreasonable when she KNOWS my inlaws celebrate on C.Eve? I would think that if she knew MH and I already had plans that she would pick a different time to do her thing. Like Christmas Day. When NONE of us have any plans.
Thoughts? Flames? Guess at my acronym? Whatcha got?
Re: Oh, Mom...
ooooh I guessed it! Five points, please ma'am!
I totally see where you're coming from though, especially if you all don't usually do anything at all on Christmas Day.
I'm sorry you have to deal with junk like that. I have some chocolate malted milk balls and would be willing to share with you if it would make you feel better
You know I don't turn down chocolate. ::holds out hands::
I just feel like she does it intentionally. I guess I could be wrong but she's never given me a reason to think otherwise. And I don't dare bring it up b/c that will just give her the opportunity to throw in my face that her life doesn't revolve around me and my life. Which is so not the point I'm trying to make. And I'd be willing to bet my bottom dollar that next year when I have le babe in tow she's going to be throwing a fit about us not coming to her house on Christmas Eve but going to my inlaws instead. I don't even want to deal with that kind of crap revolving around my kiddos.
I will give you 5 points based on the benefit of the doubt. You didn't actually tell me what it means but I know you don't use that kind of sailor language like I do.
I got the acronym: Give a F&8* I think you got it.
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I meant to add, I understand the Mom thing with Holidays, My mom didnt even go to her families thanksgiving this year and complained b.c I didnt go to her house instead.
5 points, right here. And with my sailor mouth, you know it just rolled off my tongue!
Reply back to mom saying, "Dearest biotch, we will be at in-laws on CE, just like the last # years. We will be at your house Christmas Day. I'm sorry I won't be able to see the rest of the family at your house. Maybe next year things can get back to normal. Love, Shoe
P.S. - Aunt Jenn's gettin' really tired of this BS. Don't piss off the L&D security guard, K?"
This is legal advice. Circa 2011
I feel ya, girl. MIL pulled something like this a few days ago. We always do Christmas Eve with my ILs and Christmas Day with my family. So MIL tells me she thinks this will be DH's grandfather's last holiday season (WTF?) and wants everyone to gather for Christmas Day lunch.
We'll be visiting DH's family and grandfather on Christmas Eve as planned.
Thankyouverymuch.
Oh you have mom problems too? My mom and I have...lets just say, a strained relationship. So I completely understand your problem! My mom and I's relationship got worse as soon as I got pregnant....and it's been going downhill ever since! I could tell ya some crazy stories!
Did you tell her thanks for the name suggestions, we'll put those in the "do not use" pile?? Lol!
I don't think think you are being unreasonable at all. It's too bad she didn't plan something for Christmas day...maybe she can plan for christmas day next year??
5 points for everyone!
Ms*Girl--I didn't even say anything about the name suggestions. They weren't bad names but we already have names that we love! Strained is a nice way to describe our relationship. My pregnancy has actually helped some.
I think that me + you + mocktails = best story hour ever.
I'm fuming for you, Shoe.
Just tell your mom that you have your heart set on "Laquandilisha" for a boy or girl, and that you've already decided with MrShoe that the godparents will be <enter skanky black sheep cousins here> because you know they are just the perfect role models for little "Quandi."
LMAO!!! This, this! Oh, please do this!!
This is legal advice. Circa 2011
LOL! The sad thing is P's godparents will more than likely end up being MH's black sheep sister (who has probably never seen the inside of a church voluntarily) and my black sheep brother (who isn't even sure what he believes in). We don't have a lot of options.
I'm free
, haha!
ME TOO! Best.Godparents.Ever!!
This is legal advice. Circa 2011
Totally, Jenn. We are going to stage a coup over the black sheep. Victory is ours!
I am dying over here. I can see how this conversation will go...
Me: We picked godparents.
Mom: Oh! Have you told your brother and SIL yet? They must be so excited!
Me: Nope. We decided to ask our friends from the internet.
Hahahahaha!!!
HAHAHAHA