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Holiday dinners and booze...
So, my father in law is a recovering alcoholic. He did 28-days in rehab over the summer. I heard he had a 1-beer relapse the weekend he got out of rehab, so I am not sure if he's serious about sobriety?? The times I've been around him since he got out of rehab, he has been normal, personable, and not drinking.
I'm wondering if it's okay to bring wine or drink when we go to the family Thanksgiving dinner (and Christmas dinner). We ALWAYS enjoy wine or holiday themed mixed drinks, just wondering if that will need to change now?
Thoughts anyone?
TIA!
Re: Holiday dinners and booze...
First off, just because he had a relapse doesn't mean he isn't serious about sobriety. Recovering from alcoholism is not easy.
Second, I would NOT bring any alcohol to the celebrations. It's not that big a deal to not drink for a few hours, and he JUST got out of rehab. I wouldn't find a way to tempt him at all, especially now.
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I think it would be incredibly insensitive of you to bring alcohol to the dinners, when you know a close family member is trying to recover from his addiction.
Would you bring heroin to a Christmas party with a recovering heroin addict in attendance? No. You wouldn't and shouldn't. Same thing with alcohol. All drug and alcohol addictions are difficult to overcome, and just because he had one beer after getting out of rehab does not mean he doesn't want to change his life.
Leave the booze at home. If you really must have some, drink it once you come back home after the festivities.
Every recovering addict is different. My uncle and grandmother are recovering alcoholics and it's never been an issue for them if there's alcohol at a family gathering- they simply abstain and make themselves busy with conversation and food, and the alcohol is usually kept away from the food and the main areas where people are sitting. For them, the out of sight out of mind mentality works, but that is where they are at in thier recovery.
That said, I would have to agree with pps unless you are absolutely certain that your FIL is not going to have an issue with that, and there's no way to be certain he won't unless you ask him. If you're not certain he'll be honest (he may say it's fine simply so he's not "inconveniencing" anyone), or you're not comfortable asking, err on the side of caution and don't bring alcohol. Enjoy it at home when you're relaxing later on in the day.
Yeah, that's what I figured. I have absolutely no problem with not drinking at this year's holiday celebrations. Just curious to see what others thought, especially others who've experienced this themselves.
Thanks...
You can still do holiday themed drinks without the alcohol. Spiced apple cider, egg nog, hot chocolate would all be nice.
You could also do a fizzy punch with various juices and ginger ale.