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T&Ps please
My supervising teacher at my school left on Wednesday before Thanksgiving thinking she was not going to come back until Feb. because she was adopting a baby boy that was being born this weekend.
Yesterday she sends me a text message including the baby's picture and his name, Liam. Today, I get to work and hear that the birth mother changed her mind and is keeping the baby.
I'm so devastated for my friend. She tried for years to get pregnant, and this adoption kind of fell in their laps as kind of a miracle to the long adoption lists and process. She's been gearing up for it since August, setting up things for the teacher taking her adoption leave, having all of her conferences with parents early so nothing has to happen while she's out, and now it looks like that's gone, the baby is gone and she'll have to move on to life as normal. I don't even begin to know how to react to this news. I can understand the feeling and connection a mother has when she delivers her baby, but to basically rip that baby away from a family that has been planning their lives around him, when she has been hands off for 9 months, is just so hard for me to wrap my head around.
If you guys can please keep her and her husband in your thoughts I'd appreciate it. I'm struggling to find a silver lining here.
Re: T&Ps please
I'm so sorry your friend is going through this. I really think that people need to be legally held to their word. If the woman was planning to give away her baby, then seeing it should not be reason enough for her to be able to keep it. She should be obligated to give her child to your friend (a family that will take wonderful care of him/her).
I hope your friend is able to heal from the pain she must be feeling and hopefully she will find another child to adopt.
That is very sad! I am sorry for your friend! I hope (in time) they can come to terms with this... and try again. I can't imagine what they're going through... Maybe the mother will change her mind again, but if she doesn't, let's hope that baby has a very good life.
OH NO! Thats soooo sad! Hopefully the girl changes her mind and realizes she is unprepared for a baby and the right thing would be to give him to a loving home.
T&P
I am so sorry your friend is haveing to deal with this. I can't even imagine how her heart must have sank to hear that.
I agree with PP the mother should be held to her word. Obviously she didn't want the baby in the first place and will more than likely be giving him/her up for adoption later. So sad.
I hope they fight if they can to still have this baby in their lives!!
Many many many thoughts to your friend that her heart heals quickly.
THIS is the very reason that I couldn't handle the adoption process and no matter what anything thinks it "should" be, this is the reality. It's not certain and I think that people forget that when they throw "oh just adopt" around. Not only has this woman gone through trying to conceive a child of her own and the devestation of knowing it can't happen but now she has had her dream closer than ever in her grasp......to be devastated all over again.
My heart aches for her. I hope and pray that another little miracle comes along and she is blessed beyond words with a child to call her very own very very soon.
T&P's go out to your friend in this difficult situation.