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Can I say something about the Bump boards, please?
The Baby Names board. Really?
I was poking around on there and it seems unless you name your child something text book like "John Michael Smith", they deem the name weird and hate it, thus the child will be mocked for life.
As someone with an uncommon name, I came out unscathed from my childhood, and I'm a well adjusted adult to boot. And as someone with an uncommon name, I will name my kids something uncommon. I liked being the only "me" in school and never having to share my name.
Will I make something up out of the blue? Most likely no. But if there will be a bajillion kids named "X" in the past few years, that won't be the name I pick.
I know, I know to each his own and whatever happens it's your kid, but would it kill people think out of the box once in a blue moon?
Re: Can I say something about the Bump boards, please?
I totally and COMPLETELY agree! I go over to the Baby name boards when I'm bored just to see what kind of names people are thinking about. I'm always afraid of seeing my name pop up and them bashing it. I LOVE my unique name and I wouldn't change it for anything! My DH and I have our kids' names picked out already and I know if I posted what my son's name is going to be... they'd have a Sh!t fit!
A name we were thinking of was brought up on the board and people were coming out of the woodwork to bash it. So many people were like "Hate it!" and "That's terrible!".
If it made the pages of legitimate baby books, and it's Hebrew (we're not Jewish but we like the meaning) so it's been around awhile, I think it's okay.
As it is with any baby naming stuff I think you need to keep it to yourself most times because everyone is a critic. I think people have trouble envisioning a name when it's not attached to a real live little one yet.
People are so critical of names, it is silly. When I was pregnant we did tell people the names and H's uncle said "Jack, really??" The names I picked are almost too common and they still were criticized.
My one friend did not tell people what her son's name would be until he was born and I think that was so smart.... his name is Isaiah... while the name is nms (I would have never said anything to her) it totally fits him and it is so cute!
Slightly bump related, slightly not.
The "Getting Pregnant" and Tri boards terrify me. I'm already skitzy about being pregant, and they really, REALLY don't help.
Are there any sane boards over there besides the local one?
LOL. this is how I feel too, sometimes. I'm on BOTB most often though - so I get some of the crazy, but the women on there are down-to-earth and that's why I like it. To each his own I guess.
the babynames board, I think, attracts all the closet snark that people can't get out elsewhere. It's easier because it's not telling your best friend to her face that you don't like the names Mowgli or Blakesley. If you really like the name you picked, I'd suggest just staying clear of that board. I like the idea of not telling anyone either because it often emits reactions like "my best friend's boyfriend in 9th grade was named John, and he totally screwed her over for some chick named Beth. you shouldn't use that name."
Baby in a Blue Teapot
Tempest in a Blue Teapot, food and everything else
"You live, you learn, you drink, and move on." ~ Rotty
KittyBits! You don't like Blakesley???!!!! That was my number 1 name!
HARUMPH!!!!
There's nothing wrong with Blakesley as long as you spell it the traditional way. You know, all three b's and the number 6. Otherwise you're just asking for people to misspell your poor kid's name all the time
I am a Jessica and I hated it when I was 6...there were 5 of us in my kindergarden class.....also people always call me Jennifer....cause that's the same...lol
As someone else with an uncommon name, I came out just fine. The only problem I ever had was that people refuse to use my real name. It's not that hard, but everyone messes it up. I have always liked my somewhat unusual name. The only exception was when I was young and couldn't find the cute name things. Mom just got the personalized objects instead--I lived.
We do plan to name our child a somewhat unusual name, nothing crazy like Moonbeam, but not what everyone is called in class.
For what it's worth, I don't think your name is that uncommon. I remember a couple of girls in school with that name. I always thought it was a great name.
The 1st tri gets to be a pain.. many on there seem to be there for the drama. it does get better the later you get. Don't get me wrong, there is drama on the 3rd tri as well, but it's much more supportive. Plus if you are uncomfortable about asking on the 1st/2nd tri, you can post on the 3rd and most understand why if you just mention you don't want to deal with drama and want real answers. Just be careful about posting on the boards for those that already have had their babies unless its a post baby question. They can get a bit snooty about being "bugged" by those first starting out.
Also there are some more specialized boards...like if you are 35+yrs old or the like. Those boards tend to be friendlier, like our board is (Central PA bump)
Oh, and about the names, I told one person, my mom, got a crappy reaction and we've not told anyone else. We tell people who want to know that the baby will be the first to know and then they will find out when we send out the announcements or they meet the baby. All we'll tell them is the sex and that it's not a family name, just one we liked.
LOL. Don't worry, I don't go around telling little kids I don't like their names. ; )
Baby in a Blue Teapot
Tempest in a Blue Teapot, food and everything else
"You live, you learn, you drink, and move on." ~ Rotty
this!
When I first got pregnant I shared a few names we were thinking of and everyone had an opinion. I learned pretty quickly to just keep names to ourselves!