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Registry Head Scratcher
So I was updating our Baby Registry yesterday and noticed someone had purchased our crib mattress. But the crib is still on there. WTF?
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Malia & Dave & Alexa
Happily married since 2-17-08! Three since 9-9-09!
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This is what I think too. I just went shopping off of someone's registry and considered buying their crib mattress for them. I could afford that, but not the crib!
Okay, let me add that it's my dad that bought the mattress! I talked to him on Thanksgiving and told him we still need to get a crib, so he knows we don't have one. I am just boggled by this and don't know if I should call and ask him if he's planning to buy the crib too or what? I hate to ruin the "surprise" by registry stalking, but with 9 weeks to go we need to get that sucker ordered. I think I'll wait a few days and see what shows up at the door. If the mattress comes first, I'll call and thank him and then see if he mentions having ordered the crib too or see if he thinks we're ordering it.
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agreed. I really don't think it's that odd for him to buy the mattress and not the crib...maybe he doesn't want to spend that much? granted, he's your dad and you expect something nice but I would bet that's why he got the mattress and not the crib - it was in the price range he wanted to spend.
you obviously need a crib and don't have one yet since it's still on your registry, but I wouldn't ask him about it as it might make him feel uncomfortable/guilty about not spending more on your gift.
Jaime & Brent
Oahu, Hawaii | Sept. 9, 2005
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Ditto. It reminds me of wedding registries and china sets... most people can't afford to buy the entire set, so you buy whatever pieces you can afford, knowing that others (or the couple, themselves) will contribute the remaining items and complete the set. A crib and mattress are definite "must haves," so he probably bought what he could afford and trusted that another generous party would contribute the necessary crib.
If you're nervous about the due date approaching, I would just buy the crib yourself so you're sure to have it in time. Personally, everything on my registry is something we would purchase on our own if necessary, so I'd be OK with buying it rather than receiving it as a gift.
Yes, this is why I think I'll just "wait and see." My dad is a very generous person and with my other brothers and sisters he has fully outfitted nurseries, bought cars, etc. without any qualms.
That said, with the recent wall street issues I know his 401K and retirement savings has taken a huge hit, plus I now have 3 younger adopted siblings that weren't in the picture when my other brothers and sister were starting their families. I know they're taking 2 week family vacation toKauai in February so maybe that's where his "extra" money is going right now? I don't know.
Finally, he has always seen me as the more "capable" child...i.e. I am responsible and have always fended for myself (I have never needed to have him bail me out financially whereas my other siblings most definitely have...repos, foreclosures, jail, failed business investments, you name it!)...
All that said, the last thing I'd want him to feel is that I am not appreciative of any gift he's decided to give us to prepare for this baby. I am going to wait until the mattress arrives and then call and thank him for it and hope that if he has bought or intends to buy the crib he'll just let me know. At this point I just want to get the thing ordered but would hate place our order only to have two show up because he has in fact ordered it himself already.
I mainly created our registry as a place to hold all of the things WE need to buy for our LO and am thrilled that anyone is even shopping off of it, especially since I won't be having a shower at all.
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If I remember correctly, you have a co-sleeper, right? It might be ok if you don't have the crib before baby gets here if you are going to use the co-sleeper, however I completely understand wanting to get everything you need before baby comes so you don't have to worry about it later. We used our co-sleeper exclusively until my daughter was about 4 months. Got the crib before she came, but in retrospect, I really didn't need it right away.
This is exactly what I was going to say. I was so worried that we'd have the crib before Alexa arrived but we only started using it 3 weeks ago for anything other than gift storage.
Malia & Dave & Alexa
Happily married since 2-17-08! Three since 9-9-09!
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Yes, but I have read that it's not a good idea to have baby nap in the co-sleeper. So our plan is to have her nap in the crib and be in the co-sleeper only when we are also in bed. Our nursery is a shared space with DH's study so I'd like for him to have the option of putting her down in the crib while he's studying. If she's awake he hopes to wear her in our DIY Moby wrap, but we're also getting a swing that he can use (it's "chair" pops off and can used separately from the swing as well) and of course there will be tummy time, but that totally needs to be supervised because of all of our pets. I just want to make sure he has a few options of where to put baby when he needs to be hands-free for a minute.
The mattress arrived yesterday with no packing slip or anything! The only reason I know my Dad bought it is because Amazon has a Thank You list associated to the registry. So I am going to call him this weekend and thank him for sending it and see if he mentions also having purchased a crib (elsewhere, I am guessing) or not.
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