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Where is the brain-to-mouth filter in my family??
All of a sudden, my family seems to have lost all sense of how to be polite - out of no where, they have zero brain-to-mouth filter when it comes to asking me or DH when we are having a baby....
We did start trying this month (yay!) but the only people who know about that are me, DH and Nesties. 
But apparently everyone thinks it's time we have a baby, because the questions have been coming at us frequently, and out of no where.
Two examples:
On Thanksgiving with the IL's, we are all sitting in the living room of DH's aunts house (me and about 7 members of DH's family). His step-grandma comes up to me, while I have a glass of wine in my hand, and says "So, Danielle....(everyone gets quiet waiting to hear what she is going to say).....I guess it's safe to say you aren't pregnant?"
I almost choked on my wine.
Second example - this morning, my godmother calls me (my phone dialed her accidentally yesterday and she thought she should call me at 7:30 am to see if everything was ok....). We are just making small talk when out of no where she says "So is there a bun in the oven yet? Because I've been thinking of how we are going to surprise you for your shower this time" (my bridal shower was a HUGE surprise).
This time, DH, who could overhear her, almost choked on his coffee.
Seriously, why all of a sudden? And why so blunt? I would never just ask someone flat out if they were pg!!
Re: Where is the brain-to-mouth filter in my family??
so rude!!
DH & i have been very, very vocal about not wanting kids to keep our families from saying sh!t like that (because they totally would). my new answer for when people think that it's ok to be that rude and ask "when are you having kids?" is to say: "when they come with a return policy."
what i can never wrap my brain around is why people think they have any right to let that come out of their mouths. firstly, none of their business. secondly, what if you had been trying unsuccessfully for awhile? that comment only succeeds in hurting you.
Wow, that's insane.
DH and i are nowhere near ready to TTC, but i did notice a shift after our 1yr anniversary. We've always gotten sh*t from his middle brother about when we're having kids, even making cracks about me being pregnant cuz it seems like i'm eating a lot of food!
(to be fair, he has epilepsy and has had brain surgery where some of his synapses had to be severed, but still...
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Or maybe i'm just being super sensitive about it cuz i want to TTC, but i feel like i'm getting looks from people and more comments. And i'm like enough already!! But i haven't come up with a good comeback, cuz when i say 'when we win the lottery' i get the usual 'well, if everyone waited till they had enough money...'.
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oh that sucks! I'm sorry you're having to deal with nosy family members. But, just to warn you - it doesn't stop once you are pregnant! I had a family member ask me this weekend how much weight I had gained! Not that I've gained a lot or that I really care - but it was just entirely inappropriate.
The inappropriate questions never stop...the only thing that curtailed them in my family was having a miscarriage, that's a real conversation stopper! (although I don't advise that approach)
But, take it less like an inappropriate question and more like a compliment-they love you and your DH, think you would make beautiful babies and can't wait to have new additions to the family. Be prepared with your short, non-informative answer and that's it!
"When the time is right, etc."
Some funny responses here:
http://ask.metafilter.com/46353/Good-answer-for-the-question-When-are-you-going-to-have-children
I did actually like the "why do you ask?" response/non-answer. Although it does invite lots of comments on your age, etc. that might annoy you further.
"I already have one".... point to husband.