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just devastating, WWYD?

I found out today that a client of mine that has become more of a friend gave birth (she was term) and her baby passed away 10 hours later from unforeseen complications, it seems he had issues with his little heart but the doctors aren't really sure at this point.

The family is having a private service so I won't be seeing her plus the family has asked for privacy, understandably.  There really are no words anyway, I just can't imagine what they are going through.

So what do I do to lend my support? I'd like to send flowers but I'm not sure what is appropriate for the death of a baby...are flowers appropriate?  Should I just wait a few weeks to do anything at all?

Re: just devastating, WWYD?

  • omg, that's really sad :-(.

    i think flowers are appropriate or a sympathy card. i am sure she'll appreciate that you have them in your thoughts.

  • Wow, that's really sad =( I think flowers are appropriate--I can't think of much else that would be...but I don't know in terms of timing when's a good time...I'm really sorry for her & her family's loss...
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    I agree...I think flowers and a card would be appropriate.

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  • I'm sorry. Things like this just aren't supposed to happen.....

    I think a card would be a nice gesture. 

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  • that is sooo sad.  I am not sure about the flowers but definitely a card would be nice...and to remember to check on her to see how she is doing a month from now, after some time has passed, to show her you are still thinking of her
  • How heartbreaking! I agree that flowers would be a nice gesture, along with a heartfelt card.
  • Oh, no, that's terrible. I can't imagine what they are going through.

    Flowers and a card are always appropriate. When you say that the family has asked for privacy, I'm assuming that they mean they don't want their day filled with phone calls from well meaning friends. Cards are nice because the recipient can read it when they are ready, in their own time.

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  • Wow.  I cannot imagine.  I think sending a sympathy card and flowers or a small, potted plant/tree would be nice.  Something to brighten their day, if that is even possible, given the circumstances.

    Then, in a few weeks, maybe a phone call or email to check-in and see if there's anything you can do for them during this time. 

  • Thanks ladies, ordering flowers now. 
  • that is really sad, but I agree - flowers are a very nice gesture.  and I think a call to her in a few weeks would also be appreciated.
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  • Its not the same I know, but I just m/c'd and my aunt just passed away yesterday, so I would totally think a plant (pretty one) or mini rose plant would be better than flowers. Although flowers are beautiful, they die and it is kinda sad in itself.  With a mini rose bush or something, perhaps they could plant it in her memory?  I also wouldn't wait because in a couple of weeks if perhaps she is doing a little better (doubt it), it may be another smack of memory.  Just my thought on it.
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