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co-irker...out of line, right?
My pregnant coworker is coming back to work just weeks after her baby is born (her SO just lost his job, and she'll be the sole bread-winner for a while and a full-time working mom). Because of that, she decided not to BF.
Apparently other pumping mom's on her floor were telling her how bad her decision was. Word got back that one was saying it constituted "child abuse". Then today, someone left BF pamphlets on her desk anonymously... it's a little out of line, right? Who judges another women like that, on what is already a very hard decision?!?!
She might report it to HR...she's so tore up and stressed about it all today 
She hasn't been able to eat, she's worrying about it so much... Makes me not want to share anything private at work :
Re: co-irker...out of line, right?
2004 Dx PCOS
500mg Metformin (not right dosage)
04/11 - Clomid 50mg - anovulation
06/11 - Clomid 100mg - anovulation
1500mg Metformin (Right dosage!!!)
07/11 - Wait for Metformin
07/29/11 - DH SA - Normal
07/28/11 - Femara 5mg - anovulation
08/22/2011 - Femara 5mg (CD 3-7) + Menopur 150ml (CD 8-14) + IUI #1 (9/7/2011) = BFP 09/21/2011
Beta #1 (16dpiui) 117 - Beta #2 (20dpiui) 830
totally out of line, and I would think something like that would constitute harassment at work (which means you have to get involved...)
It's just mean, it's a personal decision and some women CANNOT BF even if they try really hard. My SIL's milk wouldn't come in at all, Elisa's tried until she was bleeding, and my friend was going to but the nurses gave the newborn a bottle in the nursery! So it's not always a decision that a person can make. It's about what's best for the CHILD. And that's that.
I don't care if you BF or don't as long as you take care of your child and IMO no one should make anyone feel bad about that. I was bottle fed because I was adopted and I'm not dying so I think she'll be ok.
I want to beat up the CW's for her.
This...
2004 Dx PCOS
500mg Metformin (not right dosage)
04/11 - Clomid 50mg - anovulation
06/11 - Clomid 100mg - anovulation
1500mg Metformin (Right dosage!!!)
07/11 - Wait for Metformin
07/29/11 - DH SA - Normal
07/28/11 - Femara 5mg - anovulation
08/22/2011 - Femara 5mg (CD 3-7) + Menopur 150ml (CD 8-14) + IUI #1 (9/7/2011) = BFP 09/21/2011
Beta #1 (16dpiui) 117 - Beta #2 (20dpiui) 830
Yes, extremely out of line. I know for some BF is a hot button issue, but in the end, as long as the baby is fed, it's not neglected and there is no abuse going on.
She would be right to go to HR, because that's harassment, in my eyes. I would talk to someone about it if it was happening to me.
COMPLETELY out of line. I am a working mom who had to quit pumping because of my stress level at work (sorry if TMI- but my milk wouldn't let down at all) and felt very guilty about feeding Liam formula at the babysitter. This was all self imposed stress- I did it all on my own. No mom needs outside pressure in this regard.
This, 100%! My BFF tried to breast feed, and she stopped purely because of the stress level that it was causing her. A happy mommy means a happy baby, and I don't think anyone in the office has a right to pass judgement on you CW's decision. Definately get HR involved!!
YES. She should 100% take that to HR. Please encourage her to do so and not let it drop. What a couple of horrible biotches. Child abuse? Really? Child abuse? How dare they!
I wouldn't share any info with anyone. Or you could have fun with them and tell them lies to get them going. Tell them you give your baby an ounce of vodka to get them to sleep. Or say it's ok to leave a baby in the car if you only need a few things in the store. LOL
WOW HOW RUDE!!!!! That is NO one business how you decide to feed your child. Formula or breast milk is perfectly fine.
I think she should go ot HR. She has to do what is best for her family. If that is feeding her baby formula that is her business!!!! Poor thing is already probably going through enough with her husband being laid off and then going back to work sooner than planned!
I have smoke coming out of my ears reading this. It makes me FUME!
How dare those coworkers judge her!
I say report their asses* for harrassment! And maybe leave a weight watcher brochure on their desks.
Haha I was going to suggest formula samples.