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girls, what is your take on this...
So Mh and i went to do some Christmas shopping this weekend. One of our first stops was Toys-R-Us. We found out our 5 year old niece has a registry there! When i was told, i was like kidding?? WTH?
So MH thinks it was a great idea, no guessing on what she would like etc. I however, enjoy putting fun gifts together, especially for the little ones. THen, the more i thought about it, i thought what is it teaching the little ones? Seems so sophisticated to run around with the scanner. I don't know. Perhaps it is the "old fashioned -ness" in me. But, i will also say, that nothing was under $30.00 and many items over $60. So that was annoying too.
What do you think, especially those with kids?
Re: girls, what is your take on this...
As someone who struggled with even putting together a wedding gift registry I think this is insanity. While yes, I really appreciate getting ideas from my sister on what her kids would most enjoy, something about a registry is taking it just too far, imo.
And as for the price point- nothing under $30- whatever happened to the days when kids had more fun with the box the toy came in than the actual toy? I know that applies to mostly infants, etc. but I am old fashioned I guess.
Maybe it's just the modern day version of the "letters to Santa"?
I guess that is my feeling too. I know her mother took her to do it, so obviously there was no guidance in selecting things that were more affordable. We honestly don't see her much at all. (interestingly, on Christmas and her b-day when a gift is in order) so we don't spend as much on her as we do our other kiddles in the family. She barely has a relationship with us, sadly.
But i agree, that it becomes an obvious that you will be getting presents and let's make sure you get what you want type of thing.
Wow, I can't believe they have registries for little kids! In our family we always did a list of things that we would like because our aunts and uncles would ask for one. I mean a wish list is one thing, but a registry? I think that is a little advanced for children and see children (just like I have seen brides to be) getting very disappointed if they got things that weren't on their registry.
I guess it goes hand in hand with little Suri Cruise's high heels - kids need to be kids, not mini adults.
I can see it as being practical, I guess. I don't really see too much of a difference between asking their parents what they want and just looking for yourself. But I would never do it with my children.
I used to be much more creative with my gifts...but the past two years have been pretty busy for me - so I have just asked for ideas. Esp for the ones we don't see as much - like I wouldn't want to buy a princess doll for a girl who only likes animals stuff.
I'd be pretty off-put by it. I feel like it's sending the wrong message to kids. Like Labbie, I had a hard time with our wedding registry even. The price points even bother me because the mom should've guided her to make smaller selections too IMO. Though my nephew is the same way. He made a list and told me nothing was on it under $75. I laughed (he's in 6th grade) and told him I had already bought his gift and that I know he will love it (which he will). BUt seriously? Nothing under $75? I don't know where he gets it from...I mean he does have nice things but they are by no means a wealthy family.
When I was a kid, a notebook and crayons from the dollar store would've made me the happiest kid out there. Come a long ways from that, huh?
Ditto. I asked both my sisters for ideas of things to get my nephews mainly because I can't keep track of which movies they have and which ones they don. Stuff like that. But I did deviate on all 4 of them from what my sisters mentioned. IMO I think it is pretty tacky to do a registry for something like that. Baby showers and weddings is it.
I agree. I had a hard time not feeling gift grabby when we did our registry. It totally takes away the whole thought of the holidays being about spending time together, with presents as a bonus.
agreed. I *think* as i beotched about it more, MH finally got what i was saying.
I do the same thing with my nieces as far as calling my sister for ideas on what the latest craze is etc. Finding out my 2 yo niece is into Dora is all i needed to know and we took it from there.
To be honest, i even felt weird asking for the printout!
I do have to say that a family friend asked for gift ideas from me - and what I do during the year is put gift ideas on an amazon wishlist for my dd - but that is because I think of something and then forget it. We are talking about, like, a tub of foam stickers to bigger items.
Did your neice make the registry? I think that would be the diff.. if she made it that would be overkill.. plus I can only imagine telling a little kid to run wherever they want in TRU and pick out toys. It's a diff story if the parent makes a list to keep track of gift ideas.
It is tough to get toys for kids these days because they often have so much, so it's nice to have an idea, but a TRU registry does seem a bit much, especially if it is all big ticket ideas!
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totally agree. it totally shifts the focus of the true meaning of the season.
I would never take my girls to TRU to make a registry. OMG that is insane. My kids make Christmas wish lists/ Letters to Santa about what they would like and I jot down what they put before we mail it off and then I keep some of the ideas for ourselves and then share the other ideas with family that asks for ideas.
As a side note, for family that wants big ticket items that we can't afford (including kids) we will buy a gift card for them to use towards that item or for accessories for that item. Like our oldest nephew - he always asks for expensive stuff like video games (the ones that run $60 each) or ipods or whatever. We usually get him a $20 gift card to Walmart and he can go get whatever game he wants when he has enough saved up. Yeah gift cards aren't fun gifts, but he's 15, and I don't spend more than $20 on each of BILs kids because there are 4 of them and we only see them for Christmas and birthdays (despite living 5 minutes away from them) so I always feel it's sort of gift grabby too.
I am feeling tacky now! I just re-registered at BBB. LOL! People always need ideas for us, so I put up the pieces of china and silverware that we hadn't gotten fulfilled from our wedding registry which just expired. Generally I still give people ideas too, but if they want to get us a nice piece to add to our china collection, they can just go on and see what we need. I think we are tacky now! Oh well!
For kids, it seems a little more weird I guess. When we were kids, we'd look at ads etc and cut out pictures of what we want and put them in an envelope and then mom would pick things from there for our gifts. People could always get us other stuff too... I mean, I got my fair share of musical socks and wooden blocks.
I think my mom really only used those ideas for herself and grandparents though...
I have NO problem with adults registering for things, or making wish lists, but for kids to be given free reign and a scanner to run around zapping their every wish is a bit much for me.