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Family Drama
My poor DH and MIL. I swear.
So this past weekend we were suppose to drive 6 hours to go to my BIL's college graduation. This was no ordinary graduation, this is a seven year in the making, family feuding about payment, credit card debt, mom almost going into bankruptcy to pay for it, graduation.
Well, after DH forcing it out of him on THURSDAY, when the graduation was suppose to be Friday. The fool isn't graduating.
It gets worse.
He had ONE class this semester. ONE. He had no job, is living out of state, and off his poor mother because his dad cut him off after he failed too many times. (this was a written contract between all three parties, he had to pass, remain a full time student and get a job to pay for x amount of things... he didn't keep up to any of it, he didn't get a job, failed, and dropped classes...dad cut him off... mom refused).
DH is angry and upset, mostly for his mom. I have no idea what they are going to do, this is the THIRD time his mom had to call family members to cancel their planned trip to attend said graduation.
BIL claims that he had an A in the class but slept through the final and got an automatic F. WTF. This guy is 25. He can't figure out how to go to school, how can he function in the "real" world.
So disappointed. Welcome to awkward holiday land at the in laws since no one can look him in the face. I can't talk to him, because I don't get upset, I get pizzed, and he doesn't want to hear what I have to say.
So thoughts and prayers for DH and his family. Bethie... BIL could use a kick in the shins. Please.
::edit:: I should add, that he is a computer gamer and is on it all hours of the night and day and has failed classes in the past because of it. I think he has an internet addiction or can't separate his internet life from his real one. Anyone had any experience with that?
Re: Family Drama
::kicks mel's BIL in the shins.... REALLY HARD::
what a doof. he's hurting so many people and has no idea of the ramifications. i'm sorry mel... i don't have any experience with internet addictions..
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exactly andrea. Exactly.
So glad i got the brother with his sh!t together.
Thanks bethie
Hahahahahahaha.
I feel so bad for your MIL (near bankruptcy for this!?). I hope both her and BIL get the wake-up call they so desperately need.
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IMO, it's time for some very tough love.. for your MIL While it's very easy to point the finger at your BIL it's really her enabling this behavior for faaaaaaaar too long. She needs to cut the cord. He's going to take advantage of her for as long as she allows it. If he's forced to grow up and get a job then he'll have no choice.
I hope that didn't seem mean. It's just I have a BIL who is totally babied and I try to tell my MIL that he's never going to grow up until he has to. Mine is 30 and on his third school (on their dime) and he lives in their basement.
Gerrie,
I couldn't agree with you more. He suppose to be moving home. I think she needs to cut him off completely. There is NO reason, a person taking ONE class and supposedly graduating cannot hold a job. I worked two and went to school full time and still graduated.
I realize it takes some people longer and people learn differently but I cannot find a rational explanation for this. At all. The fact that he is doing this to his mother is B.S.
His mom... blames the dad... of course. He stopped paying, that's why she got in financial trouble. Thankfully, she seem to get her *** together financially and made him get student loans and stuff.
Can I add that not only did Dave graduate. He paid for his entire education. All of it. He had multiple scholarships and jobs. He paid 100% including room and board and his car etc. Just to show the difference.