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Ok, before I flip a sh!t, I need your opinions
Ok, so this past year my boss "put me in charge of an area". He is normally the manager of the area, but passed the duties down to me. The woman that works in this area is a massive pain. She is lazy and b!tches about everything. I've written here before about the trouble with safety certification I had with her and how she lied about talking with my boss.
So here's the thing. I sent her an email regarding part of her duties she was slacking one. It simply said, please be sure to be in your area when so and so arrives each day. Today she comes up to me and says she spoke to my boss and that when she's at the lunch, I will be called when so and so arrives to handle it.
I don't mind having to do this on rare occassion, but I am PISSED that she went to my boss about something I told her needed done. She does this with EVERYTHING. Whether he or I speak to her about something or email her about something, she always goes to him with the answer or questions. I am NOT ok with this and want to talk to him about it. If he wants me to do the sh!t work with her (and he says Im in charge of her and her area) then that should be everything and when she comes to him, he should direct her to me.
Am I wrong on this? I feel like her going to him is completely undermining me and my authority.
Re: Ok, before I flip a sh!t, I need your opinions
Yes, he needs to support you and have her tell you or come to you. Especially if she does this all the time. How can he expect her to 'respect' your position if she keeps doing this?
Ditto
I just talked to him. I asked him what my role was over this area. Did he just want me to supervise for safety or did he want me in charge of the area overall. He said overall. I said, ok well I was asking bc evertime I tell Associate to do something, she comes to you. I really think she is undermining me by doing this. Plus, it leaves me in the dark about somethings I need to know.
He said he'd talk to her and apologized for not letting me know she came to him. I told him he was fine, and just to send her my way from now on when she comes to talk to him about anything, esp things I have previously discussed with her.
Oh she knows. She just refuses to acknowledge it. I vented on here before about trying to get her to take a certification and I had to write her up for not following instructions after she well passed her deadline and was about to miss it for the whole year. When I did she flipped out and said it wasn't fair that I could tell her what to do when she's worked at this company longer than I've been alive.
That's the reason I'm pissed. She's doing it bc she knows my boss HATES confrontation and will do anything to avoid it. So she just goes to him to do w/e she wants bc he will agree and not stand up to her. Where as I will listen to her and her options, but I ultimately choose the best option whether it's what she wants or not.
Anyway, thanks for listening girls. I had a talk with him and my fingers are crossed that he will start sending her to me and let me actaully manage her. However, if he continues to take on all the easy parts and pawn the sh!t off on me, I am going to have a talk with him again.
I understand how frustrating it is. I have a similar situation, though not to the same extent as yours. I'm the product manager for a particular publication, yet some people in the company always go to my manager instead of me. My manager has a very basic knowledge of my product and without fail always ends up directing these people to me anyway (or acting as a middle-man in emails). I also have other people who won't take my emails seriously and need to hear something from her instead. It annoys me a lot because it's like, Hey, I'm the manager of this, so talk to me. But, it doesn't happen on a daily basis so I just let it go.
I remember your prior posts about this co-worker, and she's definitely in the boat of not wanting to deal with you for whatever reason and undermining your management of the area. Kudos to you for standing up to it, and I hope your boss comes around and handles this the way he should!
Here's what I would do if I were him: "Did you talk to hudy about this? I would discuss it with her."
I would talk to him and ask him if he could do this every time she tries to go over your head. He needs to do his job by reinforcing your authority. He doesn't need to be bothered with it. Sell it to him by telling him you don't want his time wasted.
This!
It sounds like you addressed it well with him, but this might be a good addition to your conversation. . . And hey, if he doesn't like confrontation, give him some every time he undermines you by catering to her.