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BFP 12.20.2010 :: missed m/c 1/2011 around 8 weeks
BFP @ 9dpo 5.24.2011 :: missed m/c 6/2011 around 7 weeks
positive for ANAs (1:40) with a speckled pattern
MTHFR c677t mutation (heterozygous)
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BFP @ 9dpo 2.1.2012 || HCG = 8 : Progesterone = 19.2
2nd HCG @ 11dpo = 40 || 3rd HCG @ 21dpo = over 5000!
Stick, little one, stick! EDD October 15, 2012
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non-clicky Poll: friends of the opposite sex
Just something I'm wondering about in general.
1. Do you have close male friends?
2. If so, what does DH think about it? Is he friends with them too? Ok with the idea? Ok, but probably wishes they were female? Not cool with the idea, but is trying to be for your sake? Totally not cool with the idea?
3. Does your DH have close female friends?
4. If so, what do you think about it? (see #2 above)
5. Have either of you had to give up friends of the opposite sex... either stop contact all together, or just be not as close as you once were? Was it a request from you/DH or did you/he just feel that the time had come to give up part or all of that friendship?
BFP 12.20.2010 :: missed m/c 1/2011 around 8 weeks
BFP @ 9dpo 5.24.2011 :: missed m/c 6/2011 around 7 weeks
positive for ANAs (1:40) with a speckled pattern
MTHFR c677t mutation (heterozygous)
*folic acid, baby asprin, Prometrium, acupuncture, Lovenox*
BFP @ 9dpo 2.1.2012 || HCG = 8 : Progesterone = 19.2
2nd HCG @ 11dpo = 40 || 3rd HCG @ 21dpo = over 5000!
Stick, little one, stick! EDD October 15, 2012
Re: non-clicky Poll: friends of the opposite sex
1) Yes, kinda
2) My closest male friend is my cousin. He and DH get along great
I have another friend that is sorta an ex. DH isn't crazy about that but the guy lives in Chicago so its a non-issue.
3) Yes
4) Its fine. He's known them since high school or since the Army, long before he ever met me. I get along with them, and they were genuinely happy for DH when we got married.
5) Neither of us are as close to friends as we used to be mainly since we've moved to TX and left everyone behind in MI.
1. Do you have close male friends?
Yes, althought not as much as when I was younger.
2. If so, what does DH think about it? Is he friends with them too? Ok with the idea? Ok, but probably wishes they were female? Not cool with the idea, but is trying to be for your sake? Totally not cool with the idea?
He doesn't mind - MOST of the time. There have been two different men that for some reason DH got very jealous of. In those cases, I do back off and try to "cool" the friendship out of respect for my husband. However, I don't have any male friends (other than "work" friends) that DH isn't also friends with. If it was a man he didn't know, I think that would probably bother him.
3. Does your DH have close female friends?
Yes
4. If so, what do you think about it? (see #2 above)
Doesn't bother me at all. I am not the jealous type.
5. Have either of you had to give up friends of the opposite sex... either stop contact all together, or just be not as close as you once were? Was it a request from you/DH or did you/he just feel that the time had come to give up part or all of that friendship?
Yes, but it wasn't on behalf of either DH or myself. The problem is when my males friends start dating ... the other women are usually bothered by them being friends with me. Then, of course, I'm more than willing to back off because as my friends, I don't want to keep them from having women in their lives that make them happy! I can think of a couple guys I'm still sad I don't have that good friendship with anymore, but I just accept it as life changes ...
1. Do you have close male friends? Not anymore. I had a close guy friend years ago, before DH and I met, but we've lost touch.
2. If so, what does DH think about it? Is he friends with them too? Ok with the idea? Ok, but probably wishes they were female? Not cool with the idea, but is trying to be for your sake? Totally not cool with the idea? I think if I had a close guy friend he would be okay with it.
3. Does your DH have close female friends? He has one old coworker he talks every now and then and emails a few times a day. She's super nice and I'm "friends" with her too- we used to go to musicals all the time before baby.
4. If so, what do you think about it? (see #2 above) I think it's fine. She's not DH's type, so I know he's wouldnt' ever be attracted to her in that way. She's hilarious and we both love being around her.
5. Have either of you had to give up friends of the opposite sex... either stop contact all together, or just be not as close as you once were? Was it a request from you/DH or did you/he just feel that the time had come to give up part or all of that friendship? No, not really.
1. Not anymore.My BFF from HS until just before we moved here was male.
2. DH tried to pretend he was okay with it, but he totally wasn't. Incredibly hypocritical, considering he's always had a lot of female friends and he's slept with almost all of them (well, the ones he's known longer than me; he hasn't slept with any of the friends he's made since we've met
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3. Yes.
4. I'd prefer they were male, but it's not a big deal to me.
5. I did, see #1. We haven't spoken in a few years and it makes me really sad. There was a lot of under the surface drama I'm leaving out, but in the end I felt it was best for my marriage to end the friendship. I'm not happy about it, but it was the right thing to do because it was causing unnecessary stress on my relationship with DH (part of it was DH's fault, part was mine). He and I had never had a romantic relationship (outside of a few weeks of making out in HS), but we were very very close.
ETA: DH never even got the chance to meet him. J hasn't lived within 1000 miles of us since 1999, and DH rarely goes with me when I travel.
1. Do you have close male friends? I used to, but not so much anymore.
2. If so, what does DH think about it? Is he friends with them too? Ok with the idea? Ok, but probably wishes they were female? Not cool with the idea, but is trying to be for your sake? Totally not cool with the idea? He would be completely ok with it, he's really not jealous at all.
3. Does your DH have close female friends? None that I know of
4. If so, what do you think about it? (see #2 above) I have to say I'm sort of glad that he doesn't (although I know it is a complete double standard) It wouldn't bother me as much now as it used to, but past hurts somehow seem to sneak up from time to time.
5. Have either of you had to give up friends of the opposite sex... either stop contact all together, or just be not as close as you once were? Was it a request from you/DH or did you/he just feel that the time had come to give up part or all of that friendship? Haven't had to deal with this.
1. Do you have close male friends? yes, my best friend since the 3rd grade is a male
2. If so, what does DH think about it? Is he friends with them too? Ok with the idea? Ok, but probably wishes they were female? Not cool with the idea, but is trying to be for your sake? Totally not cool with the idea? I honestly don't think DH cares and if he did, he is good at hiding it. I wouldn't say he is "friends" with my friend but they definitely carry on conversations around each other. For what it's worth, my friend is in the airforce and I hardly see him anymore.
3. Does your DH have close female friends? Not really but the 2 people he associates with at work are female
4. If so, what do you think about it? (see #2 above) I sort of agree with thegastons. I know it is a double standard but DH used to have more female friends before and it kind of bugged me. I actually just met his 2 work friends this past friday and it made me feel a little more comfortable but when they text him outside of work, it really bugs me. Oh and he has this dumb girl on his facebook who "likes" EVERYTHING and I seriously mean everything and it drives me up. the. wall. I think it is finally starting to bug Dh too though.
5. Have either of you had to give up friends of the opposite sex... either stop contact all together, or just be not as close as you once were? Was it a request from you/DH or did you/he just feel that the time had come to give up part or all of that friendship? DH did. He was a full on partier before he met me so he was around a lot of girls who inevitably didn't like me because I "took him away" and several said ugly things about him to me and he didn't stick up for me. Then in our first year of dating we broke up for a few months, so when we got back together, I told him in order for him to be together with me he had to stand up for me when his friends were ugly and not associate with people who did not respect me, and he did. And actually I guess i did too. My male best friend used to literally call me daily and when DH and I got together that had to slow down, but it was more on my part as respect for DH.
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1. I met my DH through one of my male friends (they were stationed together at Andrews AFB)
I have lots of male friends - they are like my brothers that I never had. There was a fraternity at school that I was close to a bunch of the brothers and a fraternity at home. Good guys.
2, He was a bit uncomfortable about it when we first met. He had a jealousy issue that I bascially told him to get over, as I wasn't duping my friends for anyone. I think he was most uncomfortable with the ex I still talk to, but there is NOTHING romantic there anymore and we fought through the weirdness of the breakup to stay friends, so again, sorry, not dropping a friend just because it creeps him out.
He has gotten to know many of these guys over time and is now friends with them. Most of them have gotten married by now and DH is much less jealous than when I first met him.
3 and 4. Close female friends? Not really, but he does have a few. He lives far away from most of them, so I have no concerns. And he doesn't have a ton of friends - he's too busy - so I'm not going to deny him people in his life just because they are female.
5. I will not drop friends - no way, no how. Have our relationships changed? Sure, but only because there is a lot of physical distance between all of us at this point. We're 10 years out of college, people have moved around, gotten married, had kids, etc. But they are still my friends, eve if I only see them on Facebook at this point. I would still trust these guys with my life - they are wonderful people.
2. If so, what does DH think about it? He's fine with it.
2a. Is he friends with them too? Sure. He thinks they're great guys. I'd say he counts one of them as a best friend. Only one of my close guy friends is not married. The other two are married and I'm great friends with their wives, but I've known these guys since I was about 14.
3. Does your DH have close female friends? He did for a while but they lost touch.
4. If so, what do you think about it? (see #2 above) I'm fine with it.
5. Have either of you had to give up friends of the opposite sex... either stop contact all together, or just be not as close as you once were? Was it a request from you/DH or did you/he just feel that the time had come to give up part or all of that friendship? I would not put up with such a request unless said close friend was bad news (i.e. I had one friend who developed quite a drug and alcohol problem and he was just not good for anything at that point. Not even to himself. Eventually DH asked me to back off that friendship because of how it was affecting me.)
1. No, not really.
2. n/a
3. Sorta... she's his good friend's girlfriend and they've been doing volunteer work together.
4. I'm totally fine with it. No problem. However, I probably wouldn't feel that way if she were single.
5. Yes, we both gave up friends of the opposite sex for the other person's benefit. He didn't request that I stop talking to the other guy but said "hey, if you never talked to him again - I'd be okay with that", and I said "okay" and decided to end the friendship with that guy (he was an ex and it was unhealthy -- DH was right). There was a girl that he was friends with in college that was so weird. She clearly was interested in DH and said things to me that were veeeeeery strange. I told DH about it (then BF), told him I was not comfortable with her - at all. He ended that friendship. I know he did it because I wanted him to.
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