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Are Ya Kidding Me???
So, when I met DH he had a girlfriend. He ended up breaking up with her (obviously) but she has never really gone away. We dated for a solid two years before we got engaged, were engaged for eight months, and married for over a year now. While we were dating and engaged she continued to send him cards for his birthday, Christmas, Easter, even Valentine's Day. I pretty much let it go because, we what was I going to do? He doesn't talk to her anymore and she is just BSC, no need to add to that. She hasn't sent a card in the past year, so I figured she gave up (she and DH have mutual friends so she knows that we got married).
I come home today, and there is a freaking Christmas card from her. And it's not like it's to both of us, like she is trying to be friendly, it is addressed to him, inside it says his name its little message then "Hugs BSC Ex Girlfriend". I never really flip over this kind of thing, but I am pissed. I am halfway between sending her a Christmas card from the "Mrs Dani Family, DH, Dani and Baby Mrs Dani" and just waiting to send her a birth announcement. What do you think? Should I just act my age and let it go? Oh and for what it's worth, this girl is my age, 34, it's not like I am dealing with a high school girl here.
Re: Are Ya Kidding Me???
Ditto. In a way, I want to say send her a card from the family and then a birth announcement... But she just wants to be noticed and that's exactly what you'll be doing by sending her anything. Just ignore her, she'll disappear again eventually
DH and I had a similar situation. An ex-girlfriend of his would call him every now and then mostly on his birthday. The last time she called she asked him what he did for his birthday. He told her I cook him a nice dinner and got him a cake and things like that. She said to him so you just want me to leave you alone and he said yeah.
I think if anything is said to her it needs to be from your DH. but....
Sending her a card from Mr. & Mrs. may shut her up. I wouldn't send a birth announcement, but I might send a Christmas Card from the fam.
Agreed. I'd be dying to send a rude card to her, but I agree with vrnk, she just wants to be noticed. I wouldn't send anything to her, she's not worth your time or energy. Hopefully she'll just disappear after this. She definitely sounds like she has issues...don't want to get mixed up in that!
You have more restraint than I do! Good for you
I say ignore too. She'll hear from the grapevine about baby, and soon enough she'll realize how ridiculous she's being and back off.
Don't let her know she's getting to you, she'll think you're jealous and have marital problems, she'll think she has a way in. It's best to leave it alone, IMHO.
I don't have that much restraint....I still like the birth announcement idea.
Like the other girls I agree with leaving it alone. Attention will just make her show up in your life more.
Plus, I'm always weird about telling people that don't like me about the good things in my life (like your baby on the way). I always fear they will send bad vibes my way and screw up what's going well.
What a creep. Have you talked to your DH about it? I would be super annoyed, but that's just me. I would probably say something to a mutual friend to maybe pass along a message that it's time to cut the ties. Although I love the idea of a birth announcement.
You know, Maybe a christmas card in YOUr hand writting from the "growing dani family" may stop the cards.
I send xmas cards to my ex and his parents....BUT I am also good friends with ex's wifie