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Coworker LOL
So like Wendi, I have b!tches for coworkers. Well, our dept admin handed out Christmas cards to our entire location except for me. W/e. I was pissed at how rude it was, esp sine the woman is over 60 years old, but I can't say I expect much more from her.
Well, when I was talking with one of the girls in our main office she mentioned the card and I told her I didn't get a card and we joked about how ridiculous it was. Afterward, she told another lady we work with. I don't know how far it went past that, but I had a card in my work mainbox today....
What I find really funny is that I have a Christmas gift for her bc every year I buy a gift for my department. I gave my boss his today bc he's off tomorrow. I am bringing hers in tomorrow and am going to lol if she doesn't bring one. I know it's mean, but she is one of those I have to do everything everyone else does and am always better at it. So if I give her a gift and she doesn't give me one, she will freak out about it and make 1000000000 excuses as to why she didn't.
Re: Coworker LOL
It will be worth the $5 lotion set whether she does or doesn't get me a gift.
This, but maybe it's just because I'm a biitch.
People I don't like/get along with aren't worth a cent of my hard earned money. But that's just me.
I'm not trying to one up her, I'm trying to piss her off. And I wouldn't say she can't stand me, she's pissed bc she's friends with the girl that works for me that I had to write up. She is my and my boss' admin and outside of the Christmas card, she's generally polite to me, which isn't a requirement of the job bc she's rude to plenty of others she works with that she doesn't like.
::thinks... glad I'm the only catty female in this building!...::
Hope you get at least $5 satisfaction from your gift!
What I find really funny is that I have a Christmas gift for her bc every year I buy a gift for my department. I gave my boss his today bc he's off tomorrow. I am bringing hers in tomorrow and am going to lol if she doesn't bring one. I know it's mean, but she is one of those I have to do everything everyone else does and am always better at it. So if I give her a gift and she doesn't give me one, she will freak out about it and make 1000000000 excuses as to why she didn't.
This indicates to me that you are trying to one up her by not allowing her the chance to gift back. What is the point of trying to piss her off? Sounds like you are actually stooping to a lower level rather than rising above the games and cattiness. But whatever it's your $5 and your job.
I sorta get it. There's a woman in my office who freaks out about everything. Apparently she has it in her head that I'm trying to control her and what everyone else does because I have more seniority at our company . . . when really, I just know everything so if you ask me a question, I'm going to tell you the right way to do something. She apparently gets into a tizzy about me trying to control projects once a week . . . Frankly, I could care less. I would love to be able to step back and do less.
So what do I do? I kill her with kindness so she has zero ammuniation against me. Last week she was upset because she hadn't completed a project she should've finished already, so I had another coworker do it since she was so busy. I thought I was doing something nice, but she got upset. It was ridiculous because if she'd finished when she was supposed to, we wouldn't have this problem, but I decided to apologize to her. She was so confused and upset I wouldn't engage in the drama with her, she didn't know what to do! She just kind of stopped talking. Problem solved!
This is my point exactly. Anyone receiving a gift, even if they don't like it(which she should bc she uses lotion every time she returns from the restroom & it's w/e she finds on sale -- Ive asked her before), thinks it's a kind gester. So my goal is to be more kind to her (which will piss her off) even though she was rude to me. Then she will straighten up. It's happened before, and I'm sure it'll happen again. She gets her panties in a bunch over something stupid and starts to be rude. Then I will do something nice, and she will realize it was stupid drama to begin with and stop acting that way.
1) I am giving her gift tomorrow bc I like to give the gifts as close to Christmas as possible, hence giving my boss' today bc he is off tomorrow and all next week. I am not by any means trying to one up him and have no reason to.
2) If I was trying to one up her, I would have bought her a really nice gift and still given it to her tomorrow. I bought her a simple $5 gift to give and there is a chance she will also give me a gift. As I said, I always do an exchange so to an extent she should be expecting it. So for me it's win -win. She gives me a gift, I have one to reciprocate. She doesn't give me one, I have one to give her still like always and she can be pissed that she's being a ***.
3) I really don't appreciate the attitude you get with me in posts (and no, this isn't the only post you've done it). I find it quite rude.
I don't think she's ever given you a direct attitude. She just states her opinion boldly and tries to fully understand what you're saying when you explain yourself. Don't take what she says the wrong way, whatever she states is just simply her opinion, nothing more, nothing less, and just take it as such.
I guess it's hard to always read someone's attitude when it's an online conversation. I just feel like a lot of people are shitting on me lately, so why would my nest life be any different?
You buy presents to deliberately "piss people off" and yet you wonder why people are "shitting on you"? Might be time for some introspection into how you are affecting your surroundings.
Wendi, I was sh!t on 1st and thus the reaction. I generally get along with my coworkers, it's not like this is a common complaint of mine.
Also, here's an UPDATE:
I gave the presents and both women were very appreciative. Neither reciprocated which I figured would be the case. Both said I shouldn't have, but made a few excuses as to why no return.
It's been an hour since the gifts were given and both women have come and talked to me and been much more polite as a result. I say, mission accomplished.
1. you complain about your coworkers being rude to you and disliking you quite often acutally so this is a common complain.
2. I don't have an attitude, I have an opinion. Not sure if you noticed or not but you didn't exactly have a thousand replies to your post saying it was a LOL idea.
3. You don't have to like my opinion or agree with it just like I don't have to think that what you post is funny or mature in a professional environment.
4. Like Wendi said, buying gifts to deliberatlly "piss people off" still doesn't make sense to me. Just because it doesn't make sense to me and it is something that I wouldn't do but doesn't mean that you don't have every right in the world to still think it's brilliant. It also appears as though you edited your original post because it said something different before about brining it later so that she couldn't have a chance to bring one to you the next day.
Quite honestly, this whole post makes me doubt how real you are as a person. You claim how rude this woman is and others that you work with yet you go out and buy gifts for people just so that they can treat you nicer.....really? Your goal was to have them be nicer to you so you went out and did something that made them feel guilty. You know sometimes in life there will just be people that don't like you and there is nothing you can do about it.
Just like your post saying that you don't "appreciate my attitude" yet you go on and on posting little happy go lucky responses on here and on my facebook. If you have such a problem with me and my "attitude" then what's the point? Are you trying to "kill me with kindness" because no offense, I just consider that being fake and see right through it.
Maybe I should, but I wont apologize for having an opinion. Certainly not on a message board where not everything is going to be received in a positive way. And like Sheri said, that is all it is, simple as that, nothing more, nothing less, an opinion. People disagree with me all the time. Take it or leave it, that's life.
ETA: Forgot to put this. I also find it funny that you choose to call me "and my attitude" out on the board because everyone else in your life sh!ts on you so why wouldnt your nest life be that way. Seriously? That's funny.