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The shitty stuff - long vent
You all know about the car breaking down. We were hoping to have it back by now, but still not car, *maybe* tomorrow, hopefully before Xmas. To make things better, someone backed into it while in the shop, so now we have some damage on a door. Awesome. (we haven't seen it, but the mechanic got the guy's insurance info, so we'll get it fixed, it's just plain shitty and not what we needed).
We have an OBGYN appt today and no car. Luckily, one of DH's coworkers will be kind enough to let us take her care (bless her soul!). We have tons of things we still need to buy (Xmas gifts, Lovebug stuff) but no car, so we'll sneak some time for shopping today before out appt, but that means less working hours for DH and more money spent.
Also, DH saw a job posting in an awesome place, one we would really like to go to. Of course, living expenses are higher, so we need to figure out if we can even survive with only DH's pay in that place. That might just prevent us from applying for that job, which really blows.
Last night we were talking about just that, and DH (justifiably) is very frustated that he can't make enough to cover for our current expenses. Yes, we get by, and we're slowly paying down debt, but any sort of emergency and we need help from his parents (which thank goodness are always glad to help us out), like with the stupid car repair. So we really don't know if we can try to get that job, and I obviously can't work right now or in the near future. He feels a lot of pressure being the breadwinner, and there's nothing I can do to help. Now we won't get Xmas gifts for each other, no tree or decorations, no visiting family, no extra money to spend on us. Ugh...
And just for good measure, more shitty stuff. This morning DH was trying to make himself french toast for breakfast. We only had one egg and the bread was green. I convinced him to make pancakes instead before he lost his mind, and he did. But we only had enough syrup for like half a pancake. Poor DH had to have one pancake only, cause he hates having them without syrup. (He's lactose intolerant, so he can't just have cereal, which is what I had)
So now he's taking even more hours off work to go shopping in coworker's car, and I'm sure he'll buy the whole store because of how frustated he is. And then we have to go shopping for Xmas, and who knows when we'll have the car back. And we still have to figure out the stupid door!!
Sigh... I know it can't always be a smooth ride, but come on!
(Thanks for reading if you made it all the way here!)
Re: The shitty stuff - long vent
Geeze...that is a lot to deal with. Sounds similar to my day earlier this week. I am glad to hear that you have someone that is willing to help you out in those situations and how awesome of a coworker to let you borrow their car. I know you werent exactly looking for advice but I just wanted to throw this out there.....though it may not be ideal...you dont HAVE to do Christmas gifts. Of course it is nice and people love all of the festivities....but you can easily pass over it this year since it sounds like you guys are super stressed and strapped. This is our 3rd Christmas not doing gifts for others or ourselves and people pretty much know that it is coming.
I hope that you guys make it through this and know that come January, you are in the home stretch. Deep breathes and lots of hugs honey......things will be ok.
I agree w Karrey about the gift thing... or maybe just do something small-like what Chandler and Monica do-make something... that costs nothing-write a poem, find a picture...
I wish I had more advice, but glad you can vent to us! and that you have family, etc... to help out.
Jesus is the reason for the season.
That is all.
Dang lady, when it rains it poors!
I feel ya. The stunt Ladmo the wonder pup pulled last week has really effected us. WE are still doing xmas gifts, but putting a cap on how much we are going to spend. I actually talked my family into drawing names, so that way we each only have to buy one gift on that side...And DH's family is all going out of town for xmas, so maybe we can buy their gifts he week after xmas when everything goes on good sales
Just keep your head up. It sucks when stuff like this happens, but you will get through it
Argh, it sounds like you guys have so much going on that you need to be in triage mode right now: just focusing on the most important things only and letting all the little stuff go. It also sounds like a household budget is in order so you guys can start saving to maybe move somewhere and have some emergency expenses set up!
Sorry you have been having such a rough couple of days. Feel free to vent any time.