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Most F'd up Christmas card EVER

I opened up a card from one of Micah's families long time friends.

It was one of those christmas letter type cards where it tells you how the whole family is doing. There are 2 daughters and a son. All 3 are married.

The FIRST FECKING LINE is about how there were 2 babies expected to be born next year, but both were lost.

It goes for TWO paragraphs in POEM FORM about these girls miscarriages! I was completly FLOORED! Those poor girls! They are already dealing with this lose, and to me its something I would want to keep semi-private only family and close friends would know...I would be devistated if something like that happened to me and my MIL sent it out in a christmas card for everyone to read.

I've just never seen anything like it

 

Re: Most F'd up Christmas card EVER

  • And to think, I was just saying to myself that some people need to ask Santa for a brain for Christmas.

  • I would feel so uncomfortable if I got a card like that.
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  • Wow!  Why I won't do a Christmas letter in my cards!

    That is just wrong... and sad.

  • Wow....just wow.  Having gone through that myself....I can tell you that it would never be included in some kind of mass correspondence such as a Christmas letter/card.  I have received some in the past that lightly discussed health issues like "if we could get Aunt Peggy healthy, next year will be fantastic".  But to go out like that is just wrong.  I would be mortified.
  • I feel so bad for those girls...And seriously, arent christmas letters supposed to be good things. WHO does that!

    She kept going on and on about god having different plans, and making it all RHYME! I think it was the fact that it was in poem form that reallllly sent me over the edge! If that was my mother or MIL and I was one of those girls, I would seriously be PO'd and sit her down and tell her how inapprorpiate that letter was.

  • I would be so deeply hurt if someone did that to me.  I can't even imagine.
  • I agree.....she was probably one of the same types of moms that went out and told the entire world including the check out girl at the grocery the day she found out about it.
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    I agree.....she was probably one of the same types of moms that went out and told the entire world including the check out girl at the grocery the day she found out about it.

    God forbid this ever happen but my MIL would be the one who did this.

  • I'm IM'ing with my MIL about it right now, and she says "thats just jane, she wants a lot of grandkids'...well thats all fine and good, but dont spread something so terrible all over gods green earth...just so sad
  • It's like the gossipers at church (not all, but def mine)...

    I'd be plenty pissed.

  • I'm in no way justifying this, and I agree with all of you that it's messed up. But maybe what she was trying to do was recognize those babies and the loss they represent to her family. Sometimes not having that recognition can be very painful for the mothers. Again, she went the wrong way about it, completely agree, but *maybe* those were her intentions...
  • Wow.  I would definitely be shocked if I read that in a Christmas letter.  I agree with Lore that maybe her intentions were good but it was not done in the right way.

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  • YUCK! And my aunt would totally do that. Her annual Christmas letter is so full of doom and gloom that it's almost comical. I hope I get one this year, so I can share it. . . She chronicals the whole year like, May 14 - the 10th anniversary of my brother's death from cancer (that would be my dad), April 10 - Danny (her husband) pulled a muscle in his back, and was in pain for weeks.

    She's a treasure. . .

  • Wow.  I really don't like those stupid letters anyway but that's just awful.  I would be pissssed if my parents did that.  Above anything, that is not their news to share.
  • WOW!!  Happy Freaking Holidays to them too!  What a slap in the face for you as the recipient and for those 2 women who have to deal with the loss and then see it in the family christmas card!
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    I would feel so uncomfortable if I got a card like that.

    Ditto Tongue Tied  That's just completely unnecessary, and IMO, an inappropriate medium by which to share that information.

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  • Indifferent

    How embarrasing for those girls!

    My sister and I banned our mom from writing her annual letter this year.  What is she going to say..."well - John died in April and the year has just sucked since then..."

     

     

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  • Holy balls.  I am just reading that now.  I'd be pretty PO'd.  Its no one's business.  I don't mind sharing it if someone has gone through a similar experience but to put it out there for all to see - no no.
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