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WWYD... appropriate or no?

So, in a few days (2), it'll be one year since my step-father passed.  I was thinking of sending my mom some flowers and a Thinking of You, but DH said that might just bring up memories.  I was thinking something 'happy' like tulips or daisies vs. carnations...

Or should I just can it altogether and just call her instead? I will see her Friday (weather permitting).

or... (something else?)

Re: WWYD... appropriate or no?

  • I think that is a very nice gesture.  I'm sure whether you send something or not she will be thinking of it.  Might make her feel good that you remember and wanted to cheer her up.
  • I think that would be very sweet. I always call my mom on that day, and on my dad's birthday, and I send her flowers on their wedding anniversary. She'll definitely be thinking of it, so it would be a very caring gesture. Just an "I'm thinking of you" call would be good too :).
  • Thats pretty tough, since its so fresh.

     

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    Thats pretty tough, since its so fresh.

     

    True. . . I guess it depends on the person's personality. Some people may not want reminders, while others might appreciate the support. I know a lot of people will act like nothing ever happened, because death and loss make them uncomfortable (makes me uncomfortable, too), but sometimes it makes people feel better to know that they are not alone, and someone else remembers and cares. Like Agent said, it's a tough call.

  • She's already going to be thinking about it. Letting her know you're thinking of her with flowers would be a very nice gesture. To me, it's nice to know other people are remembering the person I've lost too.
  • I'm sure she would just want to curl up and stay in all day.  I'm also sure some of her friends will call her, visit w her, and maybe try to take her out-although she prob will refuse. 

    I do plan to call, anyway, but if I want to do this, I have to get on the ball now...

  • I would do it.  I get flowers from friends on my moms death ann. and on her birthday.  I also send flowers to my Grandmother on those days too just so she knows she's not alone.  It is always VERY well received. Like Cassie said, she will already be thinking of it.  It's not like the day ever gets forgotten.
  • I agree with pp's, definately send 'em.  It's a very sweet gesture.

  • Thanks gals! Your opinions mean a lot-(esp when I work with all guys today who throw snowballs at me... )

    Will get them on order-I remember the bad ordering last year cause of the holidays...

  • That's though and I think it would depend on your mom and what you think she would like.  If it was my mom, I know she would be thinking of it and I would call and send her something to her. 
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