November 2008 Weddings
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**Cassie
Did you ever end up talking to J about that email from his dad?
Re: **Cassie
No. In one way, I know I should have. But he?s already a little anxious about Christmas and his family, so I didn?t want to add to it. He?s already worried about me because we?re traveling so much (stupid body) so I didn?t want to make him worry about me and his dad getting along too. I?ve kind of moved on and decided it?s a good thing I saw this side of his dad now. J always kind of hinted at it, but it?s never really presented itself until now. It will inform me in how I deal with them in the future. I do think his dad will (or maybe already has) apologize for what he said. But I?m still mad he said it in the first place.
HOWEVER, we did have a very similar conversation about his family and them being very possessive over us, which was pretty much what this was all about anyway. I told J I felt bad because they see that we spend more time with my family, but what it comes down to is they visit us almost as much as we visit them. And plus, when we go to my house, there?s a million things to do in the area. When we go to their house, we either hang around at home or watch TV. He says he gets why they might feel that way, but it?s not our fault. We can try to be sensitive about it, but there?s only so much we can do.
I think there will be a big turning point in our relationship with them when we move. We?re moving closer to my parents, which will most likely be a point of tension, BUT it should make it much easier for them to visit. We?ll no longer live in an urban setting which I think is a mental obstacle for them now. But if they don?t reciprocate then . . . I think J is going to have to confront them about their behavior again.
Maybe we?ll discuss it after the holiday, but I couldn?t bring myself to stress him out about it now.
Hilariously enough though - even though I am NOT going to see spend half the day with my father on Christmas Eve, we will still be arriving at about 5 PM RIGHT BEFORE dinner on the 24th. The restaurant is like 45 minutes south of their house so we talked it over with his mom and decided it makes more sense for them to pick us up directly from the train station on their way to dinner. So we'll probably get there even later than we would in the alternative plan.
So totally worth getting upset about in the first place.