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Le sigh. Please make me feel better ladies.
Tell me that when Hunter goes to daycare, he won't think the daycare ladies are his new mommies. 
I am getting so upset about having to go back to work, its ridiculous. I have until Jan. 11th and I'm already getting teary-eyed everytime I think about dropping him off at daycare. DH and I agreed we could do with a pay cut but there are no part time jobs out there that aren't a huge step down from my job and they all have wacky hours that would result in me never seeing DH, which I don't want to do.
My MIL and mom tell me its sooooo great that he's going to daycare b/c he'll learn that he doesn't have to nap with me holding him all the time (he doesn't he naps in his damn swing all the time too...). Here's the issue: I LOVE it when he takes a nap on me. I can sit on the computer and watch TV and cuddle with my baby! I love that he naps on me.
Ugh, my mom did say it best though, in that he won't remember me taking him to daycare at 3 months old, but he will remember it if I tell him that we don't have enough money for him to do the things he wants later.
So reassure me that he won't hate me and love daycare ladies more.
Re: Le sigh. Please make me feel better ladies.
Such a tough decision. Maybe thinking and realizing that he wont want to take naps on you forever could help? I know that is kind of a horrible thought also but they are only this tiny for a short period of time and pretty soon he will be running all over. Your mom is right that he wont remember you dropping him off. It is not like daycare is an off-the-wall thing to do. Lots of people do it so that they can provide for their families and allow for a happier life.
Honestly, I think you are being an amazing mom for at least realizing that it is important to keep your job if a pay cut would mean pretty big sacrifices for the family. And I assure you that NOONE will ever replace you as Hunter's Mommy. Yes he will cry when you drop him off sometimes, but the smile you will receive upon return will be totally worth it.
This.
It is hard, I remember when I had to put my son in daycare I cried every morning but it does get easier. Karrey is so right about that smile when you return.
I can guarantee you that he will not think that the daycare ladies are his new mommies. He will always know who his mommy is.
Although it is a given that you are not going to have as much cuddle time, you are still going to be able to have the weekend nap times when you cuddle him as he sleeps, and you are still going to be there to cuddle him to sleep at night.
My mom worked when I was little and I was always in day care, sure I would have liked to have her home, but your mom is right in that looking back, I realized how much she did for us. We were not well off, but if my mom didn't work there is no way that we would have been able to afford family vacations every summer, trips to Disneyland, and great Christmas', not to mention my education. Honestly, I remember all of that, I could not even tell you one of my day care providers names, that's how much of an impression they left on me.
I know that it will be hard and its something I will be facing in the not so far off future, but I honestly think that creating financial stability for your family is extremely important. We live in a time where there is really no job security and the more you can do to create that stability I think the better (IMO).
I agree with all of the above...and I wanted to add one thing.
He'll be used to saying bye-bye to Mommy and knowing she'll come back. The first day of school will be less stressful for you.
And we'll have to use a crow bar to get Scarlett to go to pre-school because she'll be so used to having one of us there.
Thanks girls! I totally thought I'd be cool with the idea of daycare since I worked in one but its true...everything changes when its your own!