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I'm shy and....
Ok I need some advice...I am very shy when it comes to sex. I love sex but have a hard time initiating it and being aggressive. My husband told me that I sometimes make him feel that I don?t want him but that?s not the true. Any advice on how to become better at this?
Re: I'm shy and....
Create a signal between the two of you that indicates that you are interested in sex -- perhaps a codeword that is in itself non-sexual, but between you guys, it means "I am very much in the mood."
Try "Would you like to have cake this evening? I am very hungry for cake." Friends of mine would use "lemon chicken" as in "I could really go for some lemon chicken tonight. How about you?"
First I think you need to ask yourself why you feel shy about sex with your H. Is it that you are not comfortable with your body? Is it that you don't know a lot about different sexual positions? Do you think your H will reject you if so then why do you feel this why or do you just really don't know enough about what you or your H likes to feel comfortable initiating sex?
There are easy fixes for all of these. There are books about positions that are easly ordered on line but most of these can be solved with simple communcation. Talk to you H about what he likes what you like and explore each other. Lisa your H married you and loves you for who you are (at least I hope) there is no reason you should have to feel shy with him.
I have an idea!
SEXY LINGERIE that you feel good about yourself in! Shop around and find a few things that make you feel absolutely gorgeous and confident. One night after brushing your teeth, put one of your lil outfits on and just walk into your bedroom. INSTANT fix for your problem!! You are initiating sex b/c you put on the outfit....that's a "code" word or phrase within itself right? Plus, the confidence booster that they lingerie helps you achieve will help give you that extra little boost you need to dominate in the bedroom. Take charge from time to time, tell him what you want him to do to you.
I hope this helps...it worked for me in my first serious relationship...
concerned about your body image? i'm sorry to hear that.
purchase two magazines. the first? penthouse. the second? any magazine directed at women.
put the magazines side by side. open each to a random page. now compare.
note the magazine directed to men show cases women full of curves. curves!! magazines directed at women showcase 14 year old waif thin models. your man likes curves.
go back and forth till it sinks in. then remember this. men love confident women. it's so much more impt than anything else. he picked you. remember that. and have fun.
robin