October 2009 Weddings
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2009 & 2010
Okay... so my mom asked us all "What worked this year" at our Christmas dinner. So now I ask you...
What worked in 2009?
AND
What will you work on in 2010?
For me, the biggest thing that worked in 2009 was our wedding... I love that we just went for it and planned a simple, beautiful, "us" wedding in only a few months (I'm sure alot of you will choose your wedding as well).
And for 2010 I want to really work on figuring out a balance with the addition or marriage to my life. I haven't been working out nor resting like I need to be and I need to figure out how to make those priorities again.
Re: 2009 & 2010
The biggest thing I worked on in 2009 was the wedding and getting ahead in my career. I have been working really hard to get to the next step on the ladder at work. Hopefully it will pay off soon!
For 2010, I want to be healthier and lose some weight. I say that every year, but I really mean it this year. And my husband and I would like to buy a house- I am hoping before my 30th birthday in March.
That's a great question.
What worked in 2009 - I think our wedding as well. We've been planning so long for a day that really spoke to us and I think we accomplished that - surrounded by friends and family and even getting home early to enjoy being together. Even last night, I was standing next to DH helping him dry dishes and I thought "what a wonderful life we have."
What will I work on in 2010? I think this will be the year that I "find" myself. I've gotten stuck in a rut over the past couple of years at work, and I'm ready to be passionate again. I bought a camera and I may even launch a business. More than anything though, I want me and DH to have a rock'n first year...enjoying every second of it.
I would have to say our wedding for 2009 as well. Although there were some gliches and a few things I would have changed about the day, the ceremony was so perfect. It was what we worked the most on so that every word spoken would be "us" and it truly was. I felt like it was just us and the pastor up there and I will never forget it! Plus although a few things went wrong at the reception, only my mom & I noticed and it was wonderful having our closest friends and family there to celebrate with us!
For 2010 I have some "me" stuff to focus on...I am currently unemployed and would really like that to change. I need to start working out again - no weight loss goals really, I just want to feel better about myself and get back to being healthy. And I have put off grad school for the past 2 years due to "life stuff" that has gotten in the way so I want to focus on studying for my GRE and getting my applications ready. Plus I want to focus on enjoying every second of our first year together!
For 2009 what worked for us is our wedding...it went amazingly. And my stepfather...I should call him dad since he has been my legal father for years but just have this wall to get over...he has been cancer free since the summer...he survived stage 3/4 throat cancer (never smoked)
For 2010...I plan on working on my health. Not so much just for me anymore but for my future kids. I have been realizing now is the time to be healthy and looking to the long-run of health, not just how I could look now. I am also hoping to work on my finances so I am not always in such a pinch every couple of months.
So, DH and I were just talking about this last night! I realized that in 2009, I was successful in accomplishing all of my New Year's resolutions: #1 I quit smoking after almost 15 years- yay! #2 I excercise more now that I have fallen in love with yoga, and #3 We saved every penny for our wedding and budgeted perfectly so that we are not in any more debt than we were beforehand (in fact, I paid off my credit card debt in August!). This was a biggie and we did sooo well that now we know we are good savers and financial planners as a couple. We are now saving for our big move to SF and the babies that will soon follow.
In 2010, I need to learn to relax (yoga helps as does therapy, but I am still really stressed and have lots of anxiety issues) and not take everything so seriously. We also want to drink less (we LOVE wine with dinner at home and happies with friends after work) in prepararion for baby-making time that is coming up in the New Year. Wish us luck!
I haven't posted in a while but this is a great question!!!
In 2009, what worked was our wedding - there a few things that I would go back and change if I could but overall, it was a great success! Also - we bought a new house, rented our condo, and I got a big promotion at work.
In 2010, I'll be working a lot harder at this new promotion I've been given - I've got to put more effort into this if I want to be successful, and also I need to do more for myself... I'm going to start running again. And we are going to start trying for baby #1 this spring!!!!!!
Great question!
2009 was great in terms of the wedding. Other things that went well: we got much of our finances in order, and I started my graduate program.
2010 is going to be a very busy year for us. We have quite the to-do list:
1) I am hoping to finish my grad program, which I will do by next Christmas providing that the courses I didn't take in the fall term (because of the wedding) are offered again.
2) We will be welcoming a new dog into the family VERY soon.
3) Once the dog is housebroken, we're putting in wood floors.
4) I'm training for a 5k. 5k's aren't long, but they are for veteran couch potatoes like myself. It'll be a challenge.
5) We're getting our condo and DH's parent's house ready for sale.
... ready...set... GO!
I'm going to put a slightly different spin on the 2009 answer and say that what worked was our relationship. Not only was our wedding celebration a success, but I feel like our relationship really grew and strengthened in 2009. H and I have never been very "good" fighters, as in when we get angry we get down and dirty in our fights, saying hurtful things and taking forever to resolve issues. I feel that we matured quite a bit in 2009 and we're much better when we have disagreements. We also worked together to get our finances in order for the wedding and to allow me to purchase a new car.
I think 2010 will be the year of working on our careers. I'm heading into a career change which H is super supportive of, and he is going back to school to finish his degree. He currently works as a contracted employee and won't be considered for permanent employment until he completes it, so it's back to classes for him so he can graduate and take the next step in his career.
I may have to use these questions going forward with my friends and family. What a great thing to do to find the positive at an often stressful time of year.
What worked in 2009: our wedding happening our way and moving into DH's grandmother's house that will hopefully become ours in the next two years. I'm most happy about the wedding because we stuck by what we wanted and got married with only our parents present by a judge I once clerked for. A perfect day for us that focused on our relationship.
What will I work on in 2010: looking for a new job as there is too much uncertainty where I'm at now; finishing getting our house put together; supporting DH as he looks for a new position at a job that will make him happier; and starting to get our finances in order to pay off more debt.
Whew, looks like it's going to be a busy year!
I've liked hearing people's answers today... thanks for sharing!
My mom works in the psychology field and apparently the "what worked well" thing can help in combatting depression because it moves from downward focus on what failed, what's bad, etc... It seemed a little awkward at first at dinner, but I think it's a good thing we could all use more of.
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There was a lot that worked for us in 2009. Lets see the first was welcoming our son who was born in Feb. Second was that I graduated with my BA in Business and the last was our wedding. All in all 2009 was a great year for us.
In 2010 we plan on doing some minor repairs to our house. We may also go for #2 towards the end of the year.