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big fat whiny vent
SIL & Co leave tomorrow and I swear it can't be fast enough. It's nearly dinner time and she just called us to tell us she wants us to go eat with them. Which I know sounds nice and all, but I'm so frakking over her crappy scheduling!
I'm tired. I'm achy. I don't want to go anywhere, talk to anyone, or do anything remotely social. And I don't want #$@*($%! fish, which is what she's cooking for dinner (I'm normally the biggest seafood fan on the planet, but for some reason this pregnancy has really turned me off of it).
I'm still pissed at her for saying she'd come to our house a couple of days ago, then not bothering to show up or call us to say she'd changed her mind, leaving us waiting for hours and wondering if she was coming. I think I'm mostly just super frustrated that we get treated badly by her, but she still wants us to jump when she says jump and be happy about it, you know? (Her reasoning is that, "we never see each other because I live so far away" - I don't give a sh!t that they live so far away - if they want me to spend time with them, then as far as I'm concerned, they can have more respect for our time.) If it wasn't for Ben, I'd have told her where to shove it. Personally, I think he should stand up to her more (and he knows I think this), but oh well...
Ugh. I thought that after the BBQ we had with them the day before yesterday, we were free and clear and I could enjoy the last two days of our Christmas break in peace. My evening is ruined. I know that's super petty and that I have a bad attitude, and I don't care. 
ETA: Soooooo Ben and I had a chat, and the end result is: I'm not going. I explained to him as calmly as I could that I'm just so over SIL's bullshit (I know this particular event isn't a big deal, but it's on top of everything for the last 5 years, you know?). I don't object to spending time with his family, but I DO object to being treated so rudely (like she did when she made plans with us and then didn't bother to show) and am then expected to jump into action when she snaps her fingers (and if we don't, we - and especially I - are talked no end of smack about). It's just so immensely frustrating...
I was surprised when he agreed with me - he usually jumps to her defense, so her behavior must be starting to wear on him too. Anyway, he's gone to dinner, and I'm "too sore and exhausted with the pregnancy and going to bed super early." I know it's pretty transparent as excuses go, but honestly, I just couldn't deal with SIL tonight...
Re: big fat whiny vent
I totally feel your pain. I think pregnancy just makes us hyper-irritable and much less tolerant of people's BS. I was just complaining to my friends at work about a friend who really got on my last nerve in a similar way (being inconsiderate and such).
Glad Ben understood and let you stay home. Hope you feel better!
Good for you. I am having a slightly similar issue with my MIL right now. She and her husband are retired and spend everyday sitting around their house.
At Thanksgiving she complained that she thought we'd see each other more now that we live 90 miles away. I reminded her that we do she them more than before when we lived in CA. Back then we saw her maybe every three years?! Now Joseph drives out there at least once every 6 weeks (usually mid-week when he's off from work and school) and I go maybe once every 4 months (since I work during the week and J and I rarely have weekends off together we can only go together when the stars align on a random weekend that we both have off).
I know she's on oxygen and that can be a PITA, but she can travel by car, if she wants to...she's been to our house ONCE in the 18 months we've lived here and that's because Joseph went a got her and brought here here for a long weekend.
I have told her numerous times that they are welcome to drive out here to see us...especially now that the baby is almost here. Frankly their house is not baby-friendly in the least (20+ year old carpets, junk everywhere, etc.) and I really cannot see us taking the baby to hang out there once she's crawling/mobile.
I have let them know they can stay the night, if they wish, or just make a day trip...again it's only 90 miles. They could leave by 8 am and be here by 10 am, stay 5-6 hours and head home. So far, they've chosen not to do it.
Joseph went last Wednesday to see them (since we couldn't on Christmas due to the blizzard we had) and she complained that I didn't come (uh...I was at work) and now she won't see me before the baby comes. Hello? I am 35 weeks pregnant...she's welcome to come out here anytime and see me...if she wants to. UGH.
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