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30 day challenge
I don't know if y'all remember/ heard about when a pastor in Dallas issued a challenge to his congregation for the married couples to have sex everyday for 30 days. The hubs and I have decided to take this challenge and see how it goes. As you can imagine he was very difficult to convince (ha ha yeah right!)
Today is day 3 for us. Anyone wanna join the challenge?!
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Re: 30 day challenge
I've heard about it too. I think if you're already satisfied with your sex life, then don't do it. Don't ruin a good thing, yaddamean?
But if you're having problems, then maybe it'd help??
I see a lot of problems that could occur from doing this though... what if you aren't feeling well, or if you're just plain and simple not in the mood? What if you've just had an argument? It'd be something that you still HAVE to do... and for me, that'd make it less 'special' and more of a 'job'... and I'm be pretty resentful.
Hmm, I'm not sure why pp's apparently have a somewhat negative view of this. It sounds like a good idea to me.
Kikipania: it was presented as a challenge. This implies it's not going to be a walk in the park for everyone. Being sick is a valid excuse, but I think the point was for the couples to actively make time for each other and figure out ways to overcome other excuses (arguments, being tired, not in "the mood") that are commonly used to justify a lacking sex life.
Clearly, if both parties are not committed to the exercise and to improving their love life, there will be problems like resentment and feeling like it's stupid, but whose problem is that anyhow?
I think the point of the challenge is to bring you back to the basics of your relationship. If you force yourself to be romantic with your partner on the daily basis then you begin to think about that him more throughout the day. I think it is a great idea! Go for it!
Yes, I think this challenge is meant to foster more intimacy between you and your partner. Get you back to one of the most basic, primal parts of your relationship and explore that. It's an exercise in bringing you two closer together.
Good luck! And enjoy!
30 days? did you hear about the couple who did for a year and havnt stopped?! i think they wrote a book and it was on oprah...have fun!!
to the people who dont like the idea...
the point of this challenge is to get you back in touch...literally and emotionally. if youre tired-suck it up! you wont be once you get started. and if you just had a fight- use it! youre not supposed to go to bed angry anyway so why not seal it up with a kiss? (someone once said 'a 10second kiss a day will keep the lawyers away'
and studies have shown that it does stimulate brain activity in the 'happy parts')
if it feels like an obligation every time then youre doing it wrong...the idea is to get back in to flirting and find new adventures and such so you want to do it every day. and it doesnt always mean literal sex just being adults together and being together in ways you wouldnt be with anyone else.
to the people 'doing it'- have fun!
to the others- good luck!
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It was 7 days, not 30. So no need to worry about your vag breaking.
Haha. I can see where other pp's can get that it might become a chore, but you don't have to stick to it 100%. It's not like you'll go to hell if you only get 27 out of 30 days. It's just about becoming closer and not becoming complacent and a once a month couple.
I think it is a great idea. If you and your spouse are religious, you know God gave people the gift of sex in marriage. It is a wonderful gift, but so many of us think it is a chore or a sin, rather than a beautiful expression of love between a husband and wife.
Though growing up in a Baptist home, you were never suppose to discuss such matters. I think it is a great idea for those individuals who do not feel comfortable having sex. Also, I think it is also a good idea for people who have been married for a while, it gives couples a way to reconnect. Lets face it, some people cheat because that are not satisfied, so connecting in this way will probably help save marriages.
And yes, it is a challenge, so it is not going to be easy, but it is so worth it. It will be a commitment. I think it will allow my husband and I to strengthen our already strong love and respect for each other. I am inspired to try this challenge, and I think I will start tonight!!!
It's one of the tasks I have on my list!!!
I'm pretty excited about it. Yes, I can understand the "it makes sex a chore" arguments, but it also forces you to let go of any excuses. I agree that you're obviously going to see more improvement in a relationship that already is lacking in that area, but I don't see how any relationship wouldn't benefit.
I wish I could have this opportunity with my DH, I haven't seen him in over a year. And I feel by not having had that in our relationship since we've been married that it has kind of had a negative impact just from not having that connection.