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Hi girls...
I am sorry I haven't been able to post until now. After the funeral, my mom and I flew home to NC where she just moved way out in the country, like 45 minutes from civilization. I had no cell service, and internet was hit and miss. I was able to briefly check my email and facebook before it would get hung up and I had to give up before I threw the computer out the window.
First of all, I want to thank you girls from the bottom of my heart for your suport, prayers, thoughts, cards, contributions, etc, etc. As some of you know, I really don't have many friends in this state and the only family here are my inlaws. I was so touched by the way you girls banned together to be here for me. I am really thankful for this board and the wonderful ladies on it.
The service and calling hours were nice. I think Mike would be pleased. He is a big Pink Floyd fan so I had the instrumental version of "wish you were here" playing when the pall bearers (sp?) brought him down the aisle. I also had the hawiian version of "somewhere over the rainbow" (from 50 first dates- he LOVED that movie and that song was at our wedding) playing when they took him out of the chapel. I think he loved it. Then we all went back to my father inlaw's and celebrated Mike's life in our traditional way (They are Irish, enough said ;-) )
So the funeral was Wednesday, and Thursday, Christmas Eve, we flew to NC. I just got back today. Tonight is the first night I have been alone since he passed. So far its going awful. It was kind of easy to push Mike to the back of my mind when I was in NC because he didn't usually go with me so it was easy to subconsiously think he was just in NY. I meet with the lawyer tomorrow to tie up some loose ends. Luckily I don't have to make any decisions about moving anytime soon. I most likely go back to NC eventually although we bought double crypts so I will always end up back here :-). We would always joke about our "retirement home" that we bought in Pittsford lol.
Well I guess that brings yall up to date. I hope you all had a great Christmas and New Year. I won't go back to work until next Monday so I hope to catch up on all the posts in the meantime between other chores.
xoxo
Re: Hi girls...
I am so glad to hear that things went well. I know it must have been the hardest thing you've ever had to do, but it sounds like Mike's life was celebrated in a way that represented him and the love that you shared.
I'm sure it's going to be a long road but you can come here anytime to talk, vent, or anything! We are here for you and I'm happy to see that you are back online! I've been thinking about you.
Take care of yourself and if you need ANYTHING, we are here for you!
Your service for Mike sounds like it was amazingly nice, and so personalized! And, it's good that the in-laws celebrated his life in the traditional way (I come from an Irish family, and understand the term- "Funeral Party.")
It's good that you had an "escape" to NC for a while, and I can't imagine how hard it must be to come home today. I wish there were something I could do from Albany for you. I hope the meeting with the lawyer goes well tomorrow- and luckily you have time to decide what you want to do regarding moving, etc.
Again, take care of yourself, and come here any time to vent, cry, or just escape.
Welcome back! Let me know if you need anything, or if you just want to get out of the house a bit. I have class tomorrow night and I am booked for Wednesday night, but other than that I am around and usually looking for something to do.
((hugs))
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You've definitely been in my thoughts and prayers. Sounds like the services were a great personalized tribute to Mike and that is wonderful.
*hugs!*
Hi Riv,
(hug)- I am glad you made it back here safely and were able to spend time with your fam. You're amazingly courageous- hang in there. I hope it goes ok with the lawyer and all that tomorrow. It sounds like the service was beautiful, and an Irish celebration of life is always something to remember.
I'm at work :-( but wanted to pop on and say hi when I saw your post.
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I'm glad that the service went well. I hope everything goes well with the lawyer tomorrow. You can always come here for anything! Hugs!
It is really nice to hear from you. You were on my mind today.
I just want you to know that I am continuing to keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Your strength is very inspiring to me.
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Glad you enjoyed your time with your family. It sounds like the services for Mike were wonderful, and just what he would have wanted. Please don't hesitate to come here to vent, cry, talk, whatever you need. We are always here.
I'm in the ROC area and like Melissa am around if you ever need someone to just go get coffee with or get out of the house with if you ever need it. Don't hesitate.
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What a beautiful tribute to your husband.
Just think, there are a lot of us on here, and we each have two shoulders - that means there are a heck of a lot of shoulders to lean on when you need it.