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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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TTC vs. Pregnant
Hi Ladies
I noticed many of you are pregnant or have children. My hubby and I have been married almost 2 years and trying for about 9 months with no luck. We're doing things the old fashioned way (no counting, testing, etc...) so I'm wondering, if any of you counted or tested, when did you start doing that? I always thought I'd wait a year, but this is getting frustrating and we are starting to think about what to do next!
Re: TTC vs. Pregnant
I went off BCPs about a year before we started TTC because they made me a psycho biitch. In addition to condoms, we charted to avoid for about 8 months. When we decided to start trying, I stopped temping and just tracked CM and CP. We figured we'd do it like that for a few cycles and then go back to full charting if we hadn't had any luck. We were incredibly lucky to get pregnant right away, but I am glad that I knew what my body was doing ahead of time because I think that helped. I have long wonky cycles so I think it helped knowing a vague idea of when I would ovulate.
I'm not sure if that helps you at all, but I figured I would share my experience with charting.
Thanks JCam. I have to admit, I'm totally lame and have no idea what charting even is. This is how not in tune with conception I am! Myabe I need to do a signfiicant amount of research!!
Thanks for the book recommendation. I'm going to pick it up!
Taking Charge of Your Fertility will teach you all about charting :-) Definitely pick it up, you won't believe how much you will learn! I am ashamed to admit how little I knew about my own body before I read that book hahaha. And if it seems a bit daunting, don't worry - you don't need to read the entire thing. I read about the first third or so. After that it gets into specific issues that you only really need to read if you have them.
Definitely read that book. It's amazing the stuff you'll learn. I have been off BCP for a year, but we're still using condoms and charting to avoid. But I am grateful for the knowledge that charting is giving me about my own body and cycles. Whenever we are ready to TTC, at least I'll have a jump start on knowing my cycles (like, I know I ovulate closer to day 18 rather than the "average" day 14. If I wasn't charting and we decided to TTC, I'd probably never get pregnant if I was just assuming I ovulated around day 14).
good luck!
I agree with TCOYF. It's a helpful book.
We are just having fun for 6 months before we really start charting. I have an idea of when things happen, but I just want to relax for the initial period. My OB said no worrying until 1 year but that changes with age. The older you are, the longer it may take. Each body is different! GL!
Hey there - I had a difficult time getting pregnant too! I had seen a reproductive endorynologist who confirmed my fertility issues and that made me feel less crazy about it. I charted on www.fertilityfriend.com and I thought it was super helpful.
I also ended up using Pre-Seed & Softcup - I bought both of them off this website: http://www.early-pregnancy-tests.com/softcup.html and eventually we got pregnant without meds. Everyone is different but I wish you the best of luck !!
PM me if you have any questions
We were kind of lucky. I stopped taking bcp in Nov and we got pregnant in December. I didn't find out until Jan 2nd, but by that time I was two weeks late and had a pretty good feeling. We didn't chart or anything, we figured we'd just let things kind of take their natural course and somehow the magic happened right on time. I'm timing right now at 6 weeks but I actually think I ov'd late and that's why a test didn't show until I was 12 days late. I'll find out soon. In any case, I think we were just really lucky. But gl on your adventure. I hope you get your little one soon!
Your temps will always stay up after ovulation, until you get your period. Unless you get pregnant then they won't go down. So two days after they should still be raised no matter what. Technically it takes 3 days of higher temps to confirm ovulation. Also, at that point it would have been way too early to test anyway.
Please don't take this as snark, just trying to make sure the OP isn't misinformed.
Charting made me crazy!
it took us 7 months. It was starting to drive me crazy, I stopped testing early and only tested when I was late then BFP:)