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new here just wondering.....
Do you think a couple should live togather before marriage??
My future hubby and me are. Just wondering what you all think...
Re: new here just wondering.....
LOL Why are your eyebrows raised toward your own post? In any case, I don't think it's the worst idea in the world. My H and I lived together for three yrs before we got married. It was a good way to determine each other's "habits". I wouldn't want to seal the deal with someone if they had reeeally bad habits that I wouldn't have found out about had we not lived together.
We just put faith in God that it would work. Our marriage is a 3-fold court, me, husband and God. For us it is strong because of that. We lean on him if we have troubles. But like I said it all really depends on the couple.
Ditto this entire post...
I think it's a good idea to stay with someone before marriage...I wouldn't say live with them though. I spent the weekends with my BF before marriage, and several times during the week, just random days. I learned his habits, his sleeping style (I am a very light and bad sleeper, so this was important to me), and his quirks. It's important to know their quirks, so you can see if you can live with it.
We didn't have sex before marriage though, due to religious beliefs. Their was one point in time where I was "living" with him, I didn't move in, but I slept there every night, and things turned out very badly. He ended up getting really aggitated with me and he broke up with me. We got back together 5 days later though. After that, I only spent the night with him maybe once a week. It gave us some space that we needed.
It really just depends on your religious beliefs and what you want to do. Everyone is going to say something different and it just depends on what you what.
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I think a couple should do whatever is best for them. If that's living together beforehand, great. If not, great.
Personally, I am and I am very glad to be. I couldn't imagine not moving in with my future husband before getting married now. I don't judge those that don't as I hope they don't judge me that I do.
Well Said!!!
We did just cause of the situation we were in. worked for us!!
It frightens me that there are people like you out there. Please tell me what role some fictional idea actually plays in your marriage. Provide specifics - actual specifics- of how you "lean" on a this idea when you have troubles. You should not be allowed to breed and pass this madness on to another generation.
I don't think it has as much to do with if you live together or not, or even how long you date. I think the biggest sign is how well you communicate. For some people living together lets them see what they are getting into. For other people taking time and dating longer is what they really need to know the person they are going to mary.
Communication is this biggest factor in having a healthy happy marriage.
I'm with sarahtucker -- it really depends on the couple. DH and I lived together for two and a half or three years and had about an equal amount of time living separately in a LDR. For us, I think both those things were important, especially the last year before we got married -- I lived completely by myself and he lived with a friend (I had to move for work). We learned a lot about each other and I think we both also learned a lot about ourselves. But what worked for us wouldn't necessarily work for everyone.
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It frightens me that there are people out there like you. What good does it do to belittle me and my beliefs, what harm am I doing to you? I do not care to explain my beliefs to someone who isn't going to respect what I say, no matter what I say you are still going to think it is crazy. If someone really was curious of how this "fictional idea", that has been around for thousands of years, has helped me in my marriage, then I would be glad to share it with them.
It's together. And I think it can be helpful, but every couple is different.
I've been living with my hubby-to-be for 2 years now. He always says you'd never buy a car without test driving. HAHA
In the past, I have seen what living with someone can do. I lived with a guy I was dating for 2 years and we were planning on getting married after college. Turned out, once we moved in together, we were not as compatible as I thought. We moved in and broke up 6 months later. I'm happy that I moved in with him and saw what he was really like. People are different sometimes in their homes.
My hubby and I now are very glad we live together, and certainly know now that we can survive just about anything so far. Going back to his quote at the top, we also had sex before we get married. I don't know that I could live with him and not haha
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